sarahtannn Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 My boyfriend and i rarely talk now, we used to talk every single day but when college started he couldn't commit to it (we are in the same college). I don't blame him for this but he seems to treat me very differently, he doesn't say thank you when i do something for him, he rejects my gifts, he doesn't say bye when we part and he half listens when i share my struggles with him. Because of all this, i feel like he is uninterested in me now and i feel like there's something wrong in our relationship. Everytime i asked him about it, he will say "chill!" or "i'm very stressed", he didn't even bother to show me assurance. Worse part is, i asked him out for a date twice and he couldn't make it last minute, he is not guilty that he declined the dates. A few times we went out got lunch in a big group and he basically just ignored me and didn't even sat with me, he just asked me to take care of his bag -.- Am i being inconsiderate and just longing for his affection? or is this unhealthy for the relationship? Thank you! all help is appreciated
todreaminblue Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 call me clingy but when a boyfriend and i go out to lunch i expect to sit with him....i am not a bag minder....... since i listen to a guy i am going out with, i expect to be able to talk to him to tell them how i feel, for them to be abel to talk to me...... declining dates often....not very promising...if I tried to talk to my boyfriend and he told me to chill....i would chill......i would say ok no worries going now catch ya later.........i would chill out with a friend who enjoyed my company and leave him alone for a while..no not a male friend to make him jealous...just a good friend to share some laughs with ..... if a guy rejected my gifts.....he isnt the right guy for me.......my gifts have thought behind them, loving ones......if he were to return it....he returns the thoughts that i had........thats my opinion...no you are not being unreasonable to expect a level of affection....no you are not unreasonable to want to be shown that affection and you are not his bag minder...tell him to hire someone if he needs a bag minder......i wish you the best ...have a talk to him stressed or not...he is makign you unhappy.....and you can be unhappy alone you know... you could also possibly be happier alone than you are now insecure and a bit confused and scared to say anything......talk to him, be open be honest on what you want from the relationship if he doesnt want to listen you remain unhappy together......or happier alone when you dump his butt and waiting for the right guy to show you how a reltionship should feel..deb 2
SoaringPhenix Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 He is being a selfish inconsiderate a**hat. Dump him and find someone who treats you right. 1
veggirl Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 your boyfriend does not want to date you anymore. dump him, the writing could not be more clearly on the wall. no this s.hit is not normal for people in HAPPY relationships. 1
Moe'sTavern Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Like the above poster mentioned, this guy has lost interest. You should too. 1
TigerCub Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Why do you put up with being treated so badly? I agree with the others, he's lost interest and that's his way of showing it. If a guy likes you he will want to talk to you, go out with you, he'll be polite and appreciate the things you do for him, etc. This guy is a douche and you're allowing him to treat you so badly. Stand up for yourself and drop him. Good luck 1
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