singlelife Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 I have a friend who we are fwb and really good friends as well. She shared she would like to have more but I shared it's not going to happen. It's been like this the entire year. We both have sex with other people as well. EVery few weeks she makes references to us being together. I always remind her it's not going to happen. Then she says her feelings get hurt. What up?
Moe'sTavern Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Seems she wants an actual relationship. So much for the fwb. 1
Midnight_Princess Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 You should listen and cut all ties when the other person in the fwb says they want more, their feelings rarely change back. They are always sitting there holding onto hope that youll change your mind. Do her a favour and end the fwb situation before she gets hurt(more) is my advice. And remember youve done nothing wrong here, she just cant handle it.
TigerCub Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 If you know that she's obviously not handling a fwb arrangement well and wants more then gets hurt when she can't have it - why do you continue carrying on a fwb thing with her? I mean if you have other options (as you implied) why do you continue with her? And I know that it's not really on you to end it - she should if she's getting hurt by it, but maybe it would be the kind thing of you to do. (especially since you can get it elsewhere and you are)... 1
Eggplant Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Then she says her feelings get hurt. What up?fwb = bad idea, esp. for women. I know she should be her own guardian, but please take pity on her and stop sleeping with her.
tart6245 Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Sounds like the girl I flipped out on.... FWB and we acted like we were a couple most of the time, then she had a one night stand and claimed we never were anything. I'm possessive and said awful things to her over it... ugh... Some girls are crazy.
SillieBillie Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 FWB, does not work most of the time. Females always develop some level of attachment. It's all got to do with the oxytocin production difference in males and females after sex. Females tend to produce more of it after orgasm, males actually see a big drop in it after orgasm. Just apologise and end it. You'll probably feel bad, but it'd be worse if you just strung her along knowing full well how she feels.
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