M30USA Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Ex-wife is clearly violating the judge-ordered Children's Bill of Rights because she is telling my son that he cannot put a picture of us together up in his room and that he must take it back to my house. I even informed her in an email that I would like my son to place this very important picture of us in his room there and told her that the Children's Bill of Right's enforces it. But my son told me that she is refusing. This is one of those things where I'm asking if it's even worth pursuing legally. I guess she's just digging her own grave with regard to her relationship with our son. What would everyone do?
2sure Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 She is showing herself to be very small. If you bring it up as a legal matter...you will make her decision important. So don't. Your son sees this. They see all of it, it comes together for them sooner than you think. I know it's frustrating. You have to be the guy that is always solid, not complaining, taking care. Think of an alternative he can live with. Something the two of you can share to think of each other when you're apart. When he a teen, trust me, he'll put up anything he wants. 1
2sunny Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Pick your battles. It's not worth the angst. Put it up in his room at your house instead. She making it perfectly clear that in her home - she makes the rules. Your kid will learn his own way around her bitterness. No need to point it out to him.
Mystery2Me Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Mind you I am woman with no children, but this is crazy. I am sure this photo provides your son with a great level of security, not mention away to make divorce work for him. My dad is a psychologist and in his time would always fight for the child. Let her dig her own grave but using the child to do so is un-acceptable. Does your son attend counseling or perhaps a more neutral person could speak from your son's perspective? In the end, I vote for you taking the heat for your son....let her be mad at you. Sorry if this is not want you want, call me silly.
amaysngrace Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 She sounds whack to me. I've always allowed my kids to have pictures up with their dad. I thought it was nice that they actually spent time together and were making memories together. Eventually he faded out of their lives and they decided to take them down on their own. Anyway I don't know what I would do but I sure would be angry. Are you?
trippi1432 Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Being a product of divorce...that's my Dad! My first thoughts, but one picture is not the memories of a childhood enriched with a Father's presence. As long as the two of you have those, it doesn't matter what she wants. Knowing the importance in your child's life is not a battle, it's not a court case..it's just being there. The picture isn't as important as a Dad being there for his kid. 1
imtooconfused Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Your son sees this. They see all of it, it comes together for them sooner than you think. Ask him to put the picture in a drawer, out of view. It will become that much more special to him every time he opens the drawer. Seeing that picture hidden away in that drawer, he will know all the more how petty his mother is being and how strong you are being (by not making a battle out of everything). I think it will make a better man out of him. 1
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