Michael Jackson Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 [color=darkblue] I have been dating this girl for a while and I do really love her with all my heart . She wants me to be with her almost every second of the day. When I am not with her I am accused of flirting, cheating, etc. Sometimes I feel as though she doesn't trust me. She goes through my personal items and becomes upset if I called a number she doesn't recognize or if there is an incoming call from a blocked id. I never go through her phone or briefcase looking for notes or calls. I trust her, but she doesn't trust me. When guys call her I don't get upset and tell her she can't speak to her friends, but when my friends call MALE or FEMALE. I can't speak with them while I am with her. I am becoming frustrated and am trying my best to tolerate this, because I love her. How can I resolve this without hurting her feelings? [/color]
bluechocolate Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 When I am not with her I am accused of flirting, cheating, etc She goes through my personal items and becomes upset if I called a number she doesn't recognize or if there is an incoming call from a blocked id. but when my friends call MALE or FEMALE. I can't speak with them while I am with her............ Sometimes I feel as though she doesn't trust me. Only sometimes? How old are you two & how long have you been together? and am trying my best to tolerate this No. You don't tolerate garbage like this - you have to make it stop or walk away, otherwise eventually you will be leading a sad & lonely life where she controls your every thought, word & deed.
Merin Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Originally posted by Michael Jackson [color=darkblue] I have been dating this girl for a while and I do really love her with all my heart . She wants me to be with her almost every second of the day. When I am not with her I am accused of flirting, cheating, etc. Sometimes I feel as though she doesn't trust me. She goes through my personal items and becomes upset if I called a number she doesn't recognize or if there is an incoming call from a blocked id. I never go through her phone or briefcase looking for notes or calls. I trust her, but she doesn't trust me. When guys call her I don't get upset and tell her she can't speak to her friends, but when my friends call MALE or FEMALE. I can't speak with them while I am with her. I am becoming frustrated and am trying my best to tolerate this, because I love her. How can I resolve this without hurting her feelings? [/color] Please believe me when I tell you the chances of "resolving" this issue isn't good. IF you haven't given her reason to mistrust you and she STILL behaves this way... know that she has got some serious problems, that you're probably not going to be able to change.
savethedrama4allama Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 I can tell you man. Listen to the llama. When you reach this point, its about her- not you. You probably can't do anything to change her. It sounds like she needs professional assistance. All you can do is set up your boundaries and be as supportive as you can inside of those boundaries. If you don't set boundaries, let her run your life, let her rule your feelings, you will have a mess on your hands. She has problems.
alphamale Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Hmmm....sound like a classic case of WIMPUS AMERICANUS. For gods sake man, grow a backbone and stop being a jellyfish. When you are dealing with females you always treat them the way they treat you. But it may be better to cut you losses with this one and move on. When you do find a new girl, make sure YOU are the boss, and not HER!
savethedrama4allama Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Originally posted by alphamale When you do find a new girl, make sure YOU are the boss, and not HER! Dude, you're from tha D? Maaan Detriot women would whoop you with that attitude. You must live in Taylor.
Pocky Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Dude, you're from tha D? Maaan Detriot women would whoop you with that attitude. You must live in Taylor. :lmao:
DayumQuitPlayin Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 This is my opinion..and I'm only saying this because I've seen this happen before. If she's so stuck on you like that.. questioning you.. saying that you're doing this and that.. well.. it could be because of 'Guilty Conscience'. I have a friend who would always accuse her boyfriend of doing all kinds of stuff..without actual proof. Always going thru his ****.. looking at numbers called.. asking who's this..who's that. Anyway.. In my opinion.. I don't really think he's cheated on her.. From talking to him.. I feel he's really being true to her. But the reason she's doing this to him..is because She's the one who should not be trusted. And keep in mind..she's like one of my best friends. Guilty Conscience... maybe you should start questioning her. Never know.. I'm not saying that that is the reason.. I'm just saying that that was a reason for someone else.. but that it could apply to you aswell. Anyways.. you should really have a talk with her. Make sure you pick the right time. Timing is important. Make sure that you both are in a happy mood.. maybe after watching a funny movie.. or doing something fun. Have a chill-out time.. and tell her you want a serious conversation with her. Then tell her that you love her.. how you guys get along.. etc.. Then you'll want to tell her that something is bothering you. She'll ask what it is.. then you'll tell her that you don't really feel comfortable with her actions. Tell her that you're not cheating on her..and that you feel hurt by the fact that she's doing this to you. If she doesn't understand.. then maybe.. You might wanna pull yourself out..before it gets any deeper.. because the longer you wait.. the longer these 'habits' will become more krazier..until the point where you'll get sick of her saying all this..and your relationship really going bad. Believe me. I've seen this.. and It can get REAL Krazy Good lucc 2 U
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