alex2112 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 It's great to have a forum like this to share your personal stories so I suppose I want to share mine with the hope that someone might help me make some sense of my situation. About three months ago my girlfriend and I broke-up after a seven year relationship. Throughout the course of the relationship there had been two other break-ups but my ex and I always found our way back to each other and worked through our problems. For example after we first met she disappeared after just two dates only to reappear many months later claiming she had made a mistake and could not get me out of her mind and wanted to give things another try. After this latest break-up however things appeared to have reached the proverbial point of no return. I am definitely guilty of not always treating her as best I could and probably took her for granted but I can honestly say that I truly loved her and that we shared so many common interests that it was hard not to think she was the "one". Following the last break-up I engaged in all of the behaviours that probably served to distance her from me even further such as begging, pleading, promising I would change etc etc. It was a humiliating experience that left me feeling ashamed since my efforts fell on deaf ears. I continued to try to win her back since we had worked things out in the past but after two weeks I threw in the towel and gave up. While it was painful and sad I had to get my sense of dignity back so I decided to turn the page as there is nothing sadder than unrequited love. I began dating again soon after and met some nice people and after close to two months of no-contact I began feeling better about myself and less stressed and agitated. Then, out of the blue after weeks of not hearing from my ex, she began texting me. The messages were very friendly and flirty and she even suggested that we go out for drinks. At first my guard went up and I wasn't sure if it was a good idea. However my heart could not resist the opportunity as the thought of a possible reconciliation with her was too strong so I leaped in. After several days of texting and speaking on the phone we decided to meet up for drinks and it was as though time stood still as the conversation was flowing and we had a great time. The texting and phone calls continued for another week and then suddenly, just as quickly as they started, I sensed a change in her behaviour as she grew more distant. Suddenly the texts slowed down in terms of the frequency and all of a sudden it would take her several hours before she returned my messages and then she would disappear for a few days without any contact. I soon learned that my ex also happened to be on an on-line dating site during the course of our "reunion." Perhaps not coincidentally she suddenly grew even more distant and contact between us soon slowed down to next to nothing. I suppose my main question is what was the point of reconnecting if she wasn't interested in working things out? Also, should I confront her about playing these mind games or is it better to just walk away and close this chapter in my life once and for all as it appears she has already done so anyway.
Dreamer100 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I'd say move on, just because she's taking the biscuit, coming in and out of your life as she pleases. She's treating you disrespectfully and if that's what you've been getting from her, that's all youll get if you continue to split up and get back together again. That's just my opinion though.
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