ConfusedHumanBeing Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 When I google, there are some tips even book which is Get Ex Back With No Contact. They provide tips. Will this work? That's why I keep trying to give affection 1st... Most of people here believe that NC is a process to move on. So, how come these tips and book which provide a way to get Ex Back? Is that lying or some kind of marketing for sells? One thing I am sure is if I get her back, I have totally confidence that there wont be any breakup between us. We broke up because of misunderstanding and I pushed her away with negative and bad words, so it is my fault too. All she needed was respect and for 7 months, I have changed so much in good way... We planned before the breakup the name of our son or daughter... You guys see how far we are at? Just a little dispute and misunderstanding, she is away from me and I have never date any other women even when I have the opportunity because I truly love this women. The only way for me to abandon this thinking is to see her in happiness and married... But both criteria are not met yet. I understand that it is not very good and clean to have the girl we want got banged by another retarded man... But no one is perfect... It is not like every girl is virgin and get to us... I have been doing my stuffs, get busy, progressing in my career... And I have been waiting her for 1 year and I am still waiting... I hope she will understand that we were meant to be together and will ask for a come back... Wow....you might be way worse off than I thought... Okay, lets start with the first point. That constant drivel on "How to get the ex back" is complete and utter horse s***. I know EXACTLY what you're talking about because I thought it might be true too. There is one KEY element that they leave out: If they dont want you!!!! Relationships are two sided, not one. If they dont want you, then they wont. You could be rich, have a 32 inch ding dong and be the best looking guy in the world...but NONE of it matters if there is no attraction there anymore. Plain and simple. Get your ex back, text your ex, how do do this this or this is all BS. I downloaded one during mine, and it was filled with the same in EVERY book. Be non-caring, go no contact, they start to wonder and miss you, etc. Again, if they dont want you, they dont care what youre doing. Look man, I did the same thing with my ex too. We had kid names, where we would live, how our life would go etc etc etc etc. All of it sounds fantastic, but again, thats all it is now. SOUNDS. None of it matters anymore. Every promise you guys made, every word she told you, etc....its not the same person in there anymore. They are changed. She is now a stranger to you because that is what it is now. I always told people on here (at first) "Well, you may be right, but I KNOW HER! She would NEVER do any of that to me or anyone else!" ...and what happened? She did what everyone else did. Now she is with someone else. Writing letters to him like she did me (I saw a picture of it on instagram a while back). She is going on places like Disneyland with him like we use to. She is telling everyone how amazing he is like we use to. Does it hurt? Of course it does, but at the same time, thats what it is. She is not that same person anymore. Similar traits maybe, but they are NOT the same person. One year?? Good lord dude. I'm a year out and though I think about her still, I moved on from it. WHY? Because I did what I was to do. I went NO CONTACT (hiccups along the way obviously) and realized it was over. You HAVE to realize ITS OVER. The ONLY way to get better. You are in some sweet denial right now. 1
Author dreameater Posted September 10, 2013 Author Posted September 10, 2013 I know where I am heading to... It is like hitting myself in an ice... She told me that she needs time to get back to normal with that guy and to make sure that she knows what she is doing. And will ask to go out for a coffee. And yesteday, she cleaned her room and put all the dolls I gave her - they are still in their original state with the sticker, then take photo and show it to me telling me "Look! I just clean my room... :)" These dolls was her favorite and it was really what she wanted. Why did she do that? Gain some affections? Did she know that I am still her ex or in her mind, she ignored this?
JPMC Posted September 10, 2013 Posted September 10, 2013 Dreameater, you've wasted a year of your life on someone that doesn't want you. The situation is hopeless. She doesn't want you back. PERIOD. She is torturing you and you are allowing it. Put your big boy pants on, get off of Facebook, change all your emails and phone numbers and get her out of your head. You will not get back together with her, period. Stop this now and count today as day 1 of your new life.
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