Either way I win

[reddragon588]

I sincerely hope it works out for you! I hate to see people go through heartbreak.

 

You have to wonder though. Everyone thinks their situation is unique, but in reality there are no real unique situations. Based on the patterns of those in similar situations to you, as well as the patterns of your own relationship that you have shared, it is not unreasonable to question your decision to go back to this individual.

 

If the people on this thread are wrong, it would be great! But I worry that everyone is right.

[mtnbiker3000]

My friends and family would never treat me this way.

 

Do you treat your friends and family with same lack of respect you treat us? Those who have bent over backwards to offer sound advice. In order to help you. To allow you to get past this and move on with a happy life? People who don't even know you. Your behavior is down right disrespectful.

[Toddbt12y1]

Wrong Young. I did care, even as far as to PM you.

 

I am also not jealous. I've been down this dead end road. Won't work.

 

Have you turned against the strangers who have helped you? For a liar and a cheat...shameful.

[Toddbt12y1]

I've been through heavy manipulation. A liar, and a cheat. Who was good at hiding it, and I kept taking her back. I only got hints, got played. Till she willingly done it carelessly before me, cause in her mind, and it was true, I was such a doormat. Unfortunately for her, proof is what I was waiting for ..then left this person I was to be married too.

 

I do know what it is I am talking about. You are one of those people: those who seek self destruction. Perhaps an addiction to pain and misery, all wrapped up in dependence. You've proven a lack of resolve to break it. Arrogantly deny advice, as it shows you the doormat you are: thus, you black list us, and disrespect us.

 

Though, you, beaten on the road, a stranger did help. You just spat in his face.

[mercuryshadow]

Was going to keep quiet, but...

 

I played this game for 5+ years in my last R. Like YNL, I had very little self-esteem, and even less self-control. I was in co-dependent relationship. I lurked on these boards anonymously back then, but never dared post about my situation because I was, quite frankly, ashamed. When I typed it all out, reading it back to myself, it was so absurd that I was even IN a situation like that. My family and friends, instead of well-intended posters, became those I blacklisted and turned on when they decided to stop "supporting" my choices and tried to give me tough love. When I'd get back with the ex, I'd be on such a high from some little bit of validation he'd give me, that it'd fool me (at least for a short while) into thinking that was what happiness felt like.

 

Leave. Her. Be.

For whatever reason, she's gotta do it this way. It is what it is. It's her journey.

Edited September 4, 2013 by mercuryshadow

[mtnbiker3000]

When you post it for all to see then 'ya gets what ya gets'. If she doesn't want it, then she should have followed your technique and left it off the forums...

[mercuryshadow]

When you post it for all to see then 'ya gets what ya gets'. If she doesn't want it, then she should have followed your technique and left it off the forums...

 

 

I'm neutral here. I'm not defending. I'm just able to see it for what it is. My advice to posters would be to not bother with any further with this. I can say that, having been a person who never listened to good advice from family or friends.