HTS1977 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 (edited) Ok, so if any of you read my thread about a month ago you know I was in a relationship for 4 years, have a 2 yr old together and we split up, citing my gambling issues, depression etc etc. Anyways, so 2 weeks after we split and I get my own place after living together for 4 years she is back with the guy she cheated on her ex husband with. She tells me today (we have a good relationship for our daughter and we get along btw)....that 4 years ago when she got with this guy before we met they just came out of longterm relationships and were not ready to be together they both needed time. And now that we have split up its time.....Uhhh you just came out of another longterm relationship didn't you? Seems like she was waiting around for this guy to be available and now that he is she jumped at the chance....When I met her she was only away from her husband for a month btw, and was with this guy in between us...RED FLAG I SHOULD HAVE SEEN The only thing that upsets me is that he is pretty much living at my house already, and she has told me he is great with our daughter and he adores her completely and will be well taken care of as she herself is happy... Love the fact that I feel like a rebound for the past 4 years until the guy she really wanted to be with came back into her life, at least now I don't feel like I am entirely to blame for our relationship problems, all in all...happy day from that aspect Edited September 4, 2013 by HTS1977
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Rebounds don't last 4 years. It may feel that way but it can't possibly be the case although that may have been her original intention. The way I see it is regardless of the reasons she is gone. Anyone she date's is going to be around your daughter. It'll suck, you want her and she's elsewhere. But the plus here is she found a man who care's for your daughter and treats her well. I know it's not what you'd like to hear, but it could be worse. I'm sorry to hear of your situation. That sucks and is pretty cruel
reddragon588 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 It sounds to me like the other guy is the rebound, not you.
emi Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Rebound or not doesnt matter anymore. Just move on bro
travelonic Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Rebounds don't last 4 years. mummyjonno is right, rebounds don't last four 4 years. Who says rebounds can't last for that long? Granted, it'd be pretty damn rare, but there is nothing I've read at least that suggests rebounds can only last X or Y period of time - and that how long it lasts at least partially depends on the people in the relationship.
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