Rikko Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I've been seeing this guy for about a month and a half now. almost 2 months. we've have been seeing each other casually. we really havent had the talk. and im not looking to for several reasons. (1. I don't feel like we have potential, 2. I dont want to settle down with someone who I dont see any potential with) all this time I was suspecting that he hasn't gotten over from his ex. so from the start I tried my best to hold myself back. and the other day I confronted him about his ex and how I think he still have feelings for her. and I told him that might be part of the reason why im reluctant to open up to him. and he sent a reply and it went like this : yes youre right I still do have feelings for her. and i do have love for her like anyone else that i was in love with. thats just how I am. but im over her. I had to be. as soon as I read the part yes youre right I still do have feelings for her. I teared up. I felt disappointed. and I didn't know why. it made me emotional. and the later part of message went like this: I think I might have misrepresented myself. I do have love for her. but its not romantic love anymore. some people need someone to help. but I dont. and if I needed then it wouldnt be fair to either of us. and said hes attracted to me. and likes my company. does this mean that I have feelings for him ? if yes then why is it that i can imagine myself without him. and that i feel like i can stop seeing him if i want to without feeling anything. or that i always find myself questioning whether I like him or attracted to him at all. the last time we met i wasn't enjoying myself and his company like i used to. it was dragging on. and i wanted it to end it. when he was sitting in front of me and talking to me. i was thinking in my head there was this voice telling me youre not attracted to him. and the clarity came. i felt the need to end things there. but I didn't. im confused. help!
bahhhh Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 It sure seems like it! Since you started tearing up over something like that, you were I guess a bit upset over the fact that he still has feelings for the ex. If you had no feelings and you really just wanted a casual relationship, these things would not have happened.
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