Mariposa10 Posted September 7, 2013 Posted September 7, 2013 So she contacted you and then you replied back, after that what happened? Has she contacted you again?
Author iltoro Posted September 7, 2013 Author Posted September 7, 2013 So she contacted you and then you replied back, after that what happened? Has she contacted you again? Yeah she contacted me, the 12th of may was the last time we talked and a week ago she contacted me. If you want i can write the sms-es here if you can help.
Author iltoro Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 Ah, Mariposa10, a little clarification: When she contacted me about 10 days a go, it was a 2 sms chit chat about her saying sorry to me, after that she hasnt contacted me again
Mariposa10 Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Ah, Mariposa10, a little clarification: When she contacted me about 10 days a go, it was a 2 sms chit chat about her saying sorry to me, after that she hasnt contacted me again I think you should give her some more time, and see if she contacts you again, while that happens (if it happens) go out with your friends.
Author iltoro Posted September 8, 2013 Author Posted September 8, 2013 I think you should give her some more time, and see if she contacts you again, while that happens (if it happens) go out with your friends. havent i waited enough? its about two weeks now...
Simon Phoenix Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 Simon Phoenix and Dolphono, i think you guys are missing the point here. Thing is I WANT to GET BACK with this girl. If i wanted to ignore her it would have been very easy and it wouldnt need advice. So please guys if you want to help me do it, if you dont, please dont be a setback. We're aware and our answer is still the same. Don't whine because you don't like the answer.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 9, 2013 Posted September 9, 2013 havent i waited enough? its about two weeks now... No, not even close. Two weeks is a drop in the bucket. Reconciliations usually take months to years.
Author iltoro Posted September 12, 2013 Author Posted September 12, 2013 So i texted my ex for a brief chat yesterday, we had the usual ligjt conversation and overthe excuse i told you guys about i asked her out for a coffee, she gladly accepted and im thinking scheduling the meetup for saturday. What do you guys think? Too early? Too late? Also i would like some tips on how to act at the meetup, if you have some
LinkWorshiper Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 So i texted my ex for a brief chat yesterday, we had the usual ligjt conversation and overthe excuse i told you guys about i asked her out for a coffee, she gladly accepted and im thinking scheduling the meetup for saturday. What do you guys think? Too early? Too late? Also i would like some tips on how to act at the meetup, if you have some It will be hard, but make sure you behave in a way that is NOT boyfriend-you. I learned this the hard way because I was happy to be around my ex and feel like our relationship was going back to the way it was. I'm not saying don't be awesome around her, but don't let her think that she can have all the good things she got out of dating you without actually having to date you, if that makes sense.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 12, 2013 Posted September 12, 2013 Way too early. But you are going to do it no matter what anyone says, so best of luck.
Mariposa10 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 So i texted my ex for a brief chat yesterday, we had the usual ligjt conversation and overthe excuse i told you guys about i asked her out for a coffee, she gladly accepted and im thinking scheduling the meetup for saturday. What do you guys think? Too early? Too late? Also i would like some tips on how to act at the meetup, if you have some You should have waited...Anyway, treat her as a friend, just be/have fun. Don't talk about the relationship, don't be needy or clingy. Good luck!
r321148 Posted September 13, 2013 Posted September 13, 2013 If you really want her back be the guy she fell for, not the needy, clingy person you came across as after she told you it was over. Don't bring up the past, wipe the slate clean and be you. Also be prepared to take things very slowly....reconciliation may take a long time especially as you guys didn't leave on great terms. Be a man and have some self respect. Girls don't like desperation. Good luck
Author iltoro Posted September 13, 2013 Author Posted September 13, 2013 thanks for all the advice, and the good luck wishes, much love guys
Author iltoro Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 So guys we have news, and i need help. So i texted her to ask her out for today (saturday) and she replied she had plans. :/ idk if this is a bad sign because the way i think it someone who wants to get back with you can overcome sorts of plans. After that i told her to tell me when she can go out in order for her to tell me. She said that she would tell me somewhen over next week. (Do i say no the day that she proposes?). Now another thing that happened was that she wanted to talk. Nothing serious, just general chat, what i was up to etc etc...i should mention that she saw me yesterday at a bar and came up to meet me when she was leaving. In the texts we had in the late night, she wrote sentences like a blunt: you look good or : how are you?. And after talking and talking she mentioned a quarrel i had with my best friend over her. She mentioned a couple of times that" i was safe from this kind of things now". Can anybody interpret this?
Purepony Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 You probably wont like this but sounds to me like she's stringing you along. Ignore her and go nc or your gonna go in circles asking strangers what any little move she makes means... in the meanwhile shes on a date enjoying her life. Go nc and forget her!
Simon Phoenix Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 So guys we have news, and i need help. So i texted her to ask her out for today (saturday) and she replied she had plans. :/ idk if this is a bad sign because the way i think it someone who wants to get back with you can overcome sorts of plans. After that i told her to tell me when she can go out in order for her to tell me. She said that she would tell me somewhen over next week. (Do i say no the day that she proposes?). Now another thing that happened was that she wanted to talk. Nothing serious, just general chat, what i was up to etc etc...i should mention that she saw me yesterday at a bar and came up to meet me when she was leaving. In the texts we had in the late night, she wrote sentences like a blunt: you look good or : how are you?. And after talking and talking she mentioned a quarrel i had with my best friend over her. She mentioned a couple of times that" i was safe from this kind of things now". Can anybody interpret this? None of that is good for you. If I were you, I'd stop pushing and stop asking her out. It's up to her to schedule anything. You should not be the one chasing, especially since she seems pretty indifferent toward you. Back off and see if she reschedules. If she does, then report back here and we'll give you advice. If she doesn't, go NC and stay NC and work toward healing. I was afraid of something like this. 1
OverThinker72 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 My ex contacted me and was on the phone for 3 hours!!! Does this mean he wants to get back together? No. You will feel it in your heart if someome truly wants you back and I'm sorry to say this, but your ex is either being too nice to let you down or cruel for stringing you along. You ask how you should act when/if you meet her, all I can say is that if you can't be yourself then is it worth it? I know you want to win her back but I can sense you are in for more hurt It's hard I know but please try No Contact for YOU not for her. You don't know what the future holds but you are not doing yourself any favours right now
Author iltoro Posted September 14, 2013 Author Posted September 14, 2013 So what if she actually tells me a day to meet up...?
Mariposa10 Posted September 14, 2013 Posted September 14, 2013 So what if she actually tells me a day to meet up...? You say yes, and act cool! Don't play games like you mentioned earlier saying no to her whenever she's free. This is typical what she's doing. My ex did this to me a couple of times. It's pretty much up to them, if they want to hang out, they'll let us know.
Author iltoro Posted September 16, 2013 Author Posted September 16, 2013 Also i am really curious about the last sentence that i wrote: And after talking and talking she mentioned a quarrel i had with my best friend over her. She mentioned a couple of times that" i was safe from this kind of things now. She also said that she was a lunatic but i was safe from that kind of person. Why did she mention 2 times in a row that i was "safe" now? Was it to instigate a reply from me over the relationship?
Mariposa10 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 Also i am really curious about the last sentence that i wrote: And after talking and talking she mentioned a quarrel i had with my best friend over her. She mentioned a couple of times that" i was safe from this kind of things now. She also said that she was a lunatic but i was safe from that kind of person. Why did she mention 2 times in a row that i was "safe" now? Was it to instigate a reply from me over the relationship? Do yourself a favor and don't analyze every single word your ex says to you, you'll go crazy.
travelonic Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 I just find it worthwhile from time to time to come on here and knock some sense into people who would otherwise be wasting their time. Honestly can't tell if this is a troll or not.
PR08 Posted September 16, 2013 Posted September 16, 2013 No, not even remotely. Some of the delusion on here is heartbreakingly sad.
Author iltoro Posted September 23, 2013 Author Posted September 23, 2013 Hey guys....still no news here, what should i do now, contact her? or should i still wait?
Simon Phoenix Posted September 23, 2013 Posted September 23, 2013 Hey guys....still no news here, what should i do now, contact her? or should i still wait? Absolutely do not contact.
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