zues Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Hey everyone, Im going through a tough time at the minute, i was seeing a girl for 5 months and it was long distance, we are both 25. when we started to get more serious she said it made her unhappy she missed me too much everyday, so i tried for a relationship, but she said she couldnt get into one with me anytime soon because she has "**** to sort out" before she settles down? anyways went no contact for 9 days and we ended up seeing each other again and we have had sex, i still love her but have not told her that. we talk on a daily basis through text message but lately i seem to be the one pushing to meet again and i always get an excuse she also thinks its best if we leave it a while so we dont develop feelings for each other again. little does she know i already have! so its got to the stage im unhappy everyday when i text her she might read the message then not reply for hours she always seems busy but here i am thinking of her 24/7 i cant help but think she will end up meeting someone and drop me like a ton of bricks. what should i do? im so depressed about all of this! any advice would help thanks
Author zues Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 also id like to add before i met her, her ex had left her 10 weeks before
Kizza Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 You may have to start considering that you are or were a rebound. It sux I know but it is very possible. A person shouldn't be making you so unhappy, especially at the very start. this is a sign that it is wrong time, wrong person. The start of a relationship should be happy and feel right. 1
Author zues Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 i never considered it at the start but more recently i have noticed she talks about him alot and also admits to facebook stalking him? i feel that im second best to her and she obviously doesnt want me enough if she doesnt want a relationship? its just so annoying i was nothing but good to this girl. she never once asks me when im free to meet up its always me
KCCK Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 bro, i am afraid you are just being used.. if she can still mention her ex in front of you, than i can tell you, you dont stand a chance at all... because it seems she still havent move on and you are just something temporary to her kinda like a rebound... better sort it out before you get into deeper mess..
Author zues Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 what annoys me if she says that i am the most amazing man she has ever met and all this bull, but yet when i ask her to be with me she wont. but yet she is still willing to have sex with me and all that and talk to me every day? does she know she is abusing me? what should i do just cut contact? i find it so difficult everytime i say i will cut contact i end up replying to her. she must not see me as the person she wants to be with?
KCCK Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 dude, she is treating you as a friend with benefits.. from the beginning, she never had any intention to go for a serious relationship with you.. you have to cut off things with her and find other people who is more suitable and ready to go for a relationship... this is clearly a one sided thing, you like her, clearly she doesnt, so it is better to cut off before things get too serious and too emotional/ attached for you... she is ready to dump you at anytime... be strong and find someone else.. you deserve better..
Curt2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 My situation was somewhat similar......I noticed I was doing all the chasing. I even told her that when we broke up. I think the best thing to do is to go NC all the way. She obviously doesn't respect you right now. AND if you're ever going to have a chance with her she will need to start respecting you. The only way to gain her respect is by respecting yourself. How do you do that? By NOT contacting her. By being a man and taking your balls back. By realizing that you don't deserve to be 2nd choice to anyone. Have some dignity and self respect and show her by going NC that you're serious. She will soon realize her doormat is missing. Whether she comes back to you or not only time will tell. IN the mean time please work on yourself from the inside out. Take some time to think, make yourself a more aware person, read some books. Take a new hobby...go to the gym and work on that body and show her and everyone that may come cross your path that you're worth it, and more importantly that YOU believe in your own self!
Chi townD Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 also id like to add before i met her, her ex had left her 10 weeks before Ahh...yeah, you were the rebound. You were the soft landing. Now, that she's back on her feet, she becoming more distant and you're getting tossed to the curb. Sorry to say this and I don't mean it to sound mean, but, in her eyes, you served your purpose. Plus, you can't really blame her. She was straight up with you from the start. She TOLD you that she wasn't ready for a relationship with you from the word go. So, you knew where you stood. So, it's time for you to move on. Go NC on her. I speculate that she will contact you again. But, when she does, it's for an ego stroke and nothing more. 1
Author zues Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 i actually met her through online dating where it said on her page she was seeking a relationship i was careful at the begining but the way she acted she made me open up for now im in love and she doesnt give two flicks about me. when i hear woman asking were all the nice guys are, the truth is the nice guys got messed around too many times. at the minute we are "friends" although we sleep with each other and talk every day. she plays games takes forever to text back and seems to be enjoying her life while i cant get her out of my head.
Recommended Posts