saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Well I've literally just got finished booking a parcel collection for his things. They are all boxed up and ready to go. He hasn't asked for them back, I wouldn't feel right throwing them in the bin, it's not my property to do that with. I feel like this is a positive step, one in the right direction. Although I feel sad about it. On wards and up wards now eh! 1
Kizza Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Well done! That is a good step to cleanse yourself of him. You are right to do this as getting rid of it isn't your place. You are doing the right thing here, it gives you more strength. You go!!!!!
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Thanks Kizza, it feels good to be mature and do the right thing here even if he isn't. His memories are still all over this house, hell the man built half of my furniture with me. I guess I'll have to move house now or these memories will haunt me forever x
KCCK Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 you did the right thing.. just boxed it up and return it to him.. talking bout memories, my ex is in the family picture because she was there during my brother's wedding... how sucks is that.. haha... 1
thora-tiki Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Great job, mummyjonno! No contact! Like you said: «On wards and up wards now eh!» Just keep the faith and heal yourself and forget about the old failed relationship till you no longer feel this crap you feel. Then everything will look different, and then you decide what to do. The wonderful thing about no contact is that it gives you a chance to think about YOU and YOUR stuff first. No pun intended. Bahaha! There is no certainty that you will get your ex-hole back at all, but when you go no contact, people have a chance to miss you and see what they want in their life, but more to the point YOU have a chance to see what you really want in yours. Que sera, sera. Whatever will be, will be... 1
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 you did the right thing.. just boxed it up and return it to him.. talking bout memories, my ex is in the family picture because she was there during my brother's wedding... how sucks is that.. haha... That does suck! I remember going to his mothers and his ex wife being in all the family photos. I understand why but there wasn't much I could do. I did ask if I could draw a mustache on her though 1
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Great job, mummyjonno! No contact! Like you said: «On wards and up wards now eh!» Just keep the faith and heal yourself and forget about the old failed relationship till you no longer feel this crap you feel. Then everything will look different, and then you decide what to do. The wonderful thing about no contact is that it gives you a chance to think about YOU and YOUR stuff first. No pun intended. Bahaha! There is no certainty that you will get your ex-hole back at all, but when you go no contact, people have a chance to miss you and see what they want in their life, but more to the point YOU have a chance to see what you really want in yours. Que sera, sera. Whatever will be, will be... Thanks Thora I understand what you mean. Without him before I felt lost like half of me was missing. Now I don't. I see that he had issues he brought into our relationship and wouldn't address. If he can't address them now, or in the future he can find someone else! nice pun btw ;)
youngnlove89 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Well I've literally just got finished booking a parcel collection for his things. They are all boxed up and ready to go. He hasn't asked for them back, I wouldn't feel right throwing them in the bin, it's not my property to do that with. I feel like this is a positive step, one in the right direction. Although I feel sad about it. On wards and up wards now eh! and you felt the need to announce that why? Its your life, if you want to make decisions, silly or not make them. You don't need people here to justify them.
JDPT Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Glad you boxed those up. I would just put them somewhere out of teach in the meantime. I wouldn't independently contact him or even waste the money on shipping those to him. If he needs his stuff so badly HE can make arrangements to get them off you. In the meantime just keep them away from you.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 and you felt the need to announce that why? Its your life, if you want to make decisions, silly or not make them. You don't need people here to justify them. Considering you don't even have a boyfriend let alone a man who will commit to you I doubt you are one to talk are you. Go have sex with your little user... that's all he thinks your good enough for!
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Glad you boxed those up. I would just put them somewhere out of teach in the meantime. I wouldn't independently contact him or even waste the money on shipping those to him. If he needs his stuff so badly HE can make arrangements to get them off you. In the meantime just keep them away from you. He doesn't know it's coming, he's not asked I simply don't want it here. It's not my place to throw out HIS belongings and to get the reminder out of here is worth the £10 it's costing
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Easy ladies, easy.... :laugh: she's just mad that she got a dose of truth. Don't worry about it xx
Grumpybutfun Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 mummyjonno: I can understand why you posted this...you need support because transitioning out of relationships can be very stressful. It is good to return items just so you can feel a bit of closure on the relationship. Just keep your focus on why it didn't work, and remember that we attract happiness when we feel happiness. Make your life, goals, dreams and desires a priority right now. Good luck, Grumps
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 mummyjonno: I can understand why you posted this...you need support because transitioning out of relationships can be very stressful. It is good to return items just so you can feel a bit of closure on the relationship. Just keep your focus on why it didn't work, and remember that we attract happiness when we feel happiness. Make your life, goals, dreams and desires a priority right now. Good luck, Grumps Thanks Grumps. I know why it didn't work and now (after believing it was somehow my fault) I now know it's not. I'm proud of me today
DM42 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Thanks for posting this. I'm glad you are sending it away to him because you don't need it around in 2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years. I tried to get rid of any reminders of her and it helps. I say tried because just the other day I found something she gave me and it made me a little sad but I promptly threw it out and keep trying to move on. Posts like this are good for people to write and be proud of the progress they have made. They are also good for others to read who aren't quite at these different stages or steps because it shows that people do indeed move on and progress away from the heartache and despair.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Thanks for posting this. I'm glad you are sending it away to him because you don't need it around in 2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months or 2 years. I tried to get rid of any reminders of her and it helps. I say tried because just the other day I found something she gave me and it made me a little sad but I promptly threw it out and keep trying to move on. Posts like this are good for people to write and be proud of the progress they have made. They are also good for others to read who aren't quite at these different stages or steps because it shows that people do indeed move on and progress away from the heartache and despair. Thank you this really made me smile. I am giving HIS things back however it's a tough one for me. I have a big unit from ikea he bought (he picked it up for me and wouldn't let me give him the money for it) He built it and it sits at me in my dining room daily. I can't send that through the mail however I may sell it and replace it with something else now xxx
DM42 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I would sell the unit from ikea if it's a constant reminder and it doesn't do any good for you. I did find it hard to get rid of the things that she gave me but it also kind of felt good. If I think about them now it brings back happy memories for the most part but if I physically saw them at home it would make me sad.
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 I would sell the unit from ikea if it's a constant reminder and it doesn't do any good for you. I did find it hard to get rid of the things that she gave me but it also kind of felt good. If I think about them now it brings back happy memories for the most part but if I physically saw them at home it would make me sad. I feel very much the same. I see it daily and I remember us building it and me laughing at him because he hit his finger with the hammer. It's things like that I am not ready to think of yet. One day I hope I'll look back and smile and remember it as a good thought. Now isn't that time though. I've now listed it for sale - hopefully it'll sell quickly and I can get it out of my house. I'd even considered moving house simply because the memories are here in every room but that's going a little too far in my opinion xxx
unexpectedlyhere Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 For some reason furniture I really don't mind keeping, it's his mugs and of course any photos and sentimwntal buys, we had our own teddy etc
Author saltyfishhead666 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 For some reason furniture I really don't mind keeping, it's his mugs and of course any photos and sentimwntal buys, we had our own teddy etc I know what you mean. He's a wine drinker and I'm not. We have matching wine glasses. Both of those are going to him. Maybe he can use them when he meets someone else. Haha x
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