ellowmay Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I just got out of a four year relationship with a guy (I am female) and it has been pretty emotionally traumatic. However, since it was my first relationship and I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual I'm considering shaking things up by experimenting with a female. Is this wrong? Lol is it cruel? Too soon? I have had a lot of issues with physical intimacy, a lot of which has been paranoia about being pregnant and not being ready, but I'm truly curious. I'm also conflicted,obviously.
Misfortune Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I don't see why you shouldn't experiment and find out what's best for you. I advise waiting until you're at a better place emotionally before diving into to anything. It would only be wrong or cruel if you experimented with someone who wants a serious relationship. Your fears of pregnancy will be a thing of the past with a female, so you should be able to relax and enjoy that more than being with a guy. 1
Author ellowmay Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Indeed. I guess the only thing tripping me up is that she is a mutual friend of me and my former. She has always flirted with me and none of my intent is spiteful, I'm truly just curious and find her beautiful. I don't want to stir up drama though. And I guess my sense of honor doubts it, but I dunno.
Misfortune Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I wouldn't mess with her unless I was looking for drama. If you think you can deal with the issues that will probably come with it, go for it. I don't think that it's wise to mess with someone who will possibly cause you to be in contact with your ex. Are you curious about being with a female or being with her?
Author ellowmay Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Mostly just being with a female. She just seems to have had it out for me and I could see her being fun and attractive. I'm definitely going to tread lightly here lol **** has been too crazy. And she's not interested in relationships. More like female conquest. I guess that's why it doesn't seem pressured in that way. I don't think it would hurt her feelings if it was a one time thing or just sex.
Oldcatskinner Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 OP, From your last post, it seems like you would be okay being used for sex by a girl. Other than pregnancy, how does this differ by being used for sex by a guy?
Author ellowmay Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 In this situation it differs because I am also using this person in a way because I have no interest in getting into another relationship as I have just let a long term one. I just want information I guess. What's it like being with someone else, with a female, is it something I find satisfaction in? Not sure.I've only ever been with the one guy. For four years...
Omei Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 If you and your friend are really close go for it, IF YOU know your friendship will still be strong after. My very good friend of over 10 years my best friend we have been intimate a few times when we've both been single and it hasn't change a thing our friendship is very special We looked at it in a way of doing each other a favor when we're lonely we're not in love with each other or anything like that and if we were guys I am pretty sure this would never happen haha.
almond Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 This isn't strange. And no, I don't think it's wrong or cruel either. If you wish to experiment, then go for it! If you're having intimacy issues, don't force yourself - address it and resolve it. Make sure you're dealing with your emotional trauma in a healthy way though, and try to ensure that you have worked through it before emotionally committing to anyone else. 1
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