melell Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I just want to say I am in between 2-3 months NC (8year together). I was devastated to start with. I broke NC earlier in the week to let him know a sick family member was in the clear. He was waiting to hear. He replies, thanking me for letting him know. I didn't respond. Then he contacts me saying 'have you been trying to call me', I don't respond. The next day I get 'So.. how are you' I honestly have no desire what so ever to respond. I felt a bit uneasy when I first contacted him, but I hadn't thought of him since. It is strange, I am only just starting to notice that I go days without thinking of him. And that the emotional ties just aren't there for me anymore. The desire has been completely killed.
Simon Phoenix Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I just want to say I am in between 2-3 months NC (8year together). I was devastated to start with. I broke NC earlier in the week to let him know a sick family member was in the clear. He was waiting to hear. He replies, thanking me for letting him know. I didn't respond. Then he contacts me saying 'have you been trying to call me', I don't respond. The next day I get 'So.. how are you' I honestly have no desire what so ever to respond. I felt a bit uneasy when I first contacted him, but I hadn't thought of him since. It is strange, I am only just starting to notice that I go days without thinking of him. And that the emotional ties just aren't there for me anymore. The desire has been completely killed. Then don't. Honestly, the only person who can break your own NC is you. NC is not a two-person thing, it's an individual thing.
JDPT Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Don't worry about his NC, worry about your NC.
tart6245 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 The biggest mistake I made during my healing process after my girlfriend of 2.5 years and I split was when I responded to her text a month after we broke up. I was feeling better and extremely upbeat, then she contacted me and wanted to be friends, got really emotional because it was Valentine's Day, and started reminiscing about us. Eventually I told her I couldn't do it because I wasn't ready, so we stopped talking again. But it set me back a lot when I did talk to her for those couple of weeks. I felt great and awful at the same time. Great because it was her, I still loved her, still wanted her, but awful because we weren't dating anymore and I didn't know how to handle it. Point is, if you aren't ready, don't respond. No one is forcing you to do that.
Author melell Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Thanks everyone. That is what I am saying, NC has worked for me, I don't want to talk to them at all, I don't even have to force myself to resist anymore, I have no desire to. His texts don't spark any emotion in me at all, it is strange. I think my brain has finally gotten to 'don't touch the fire you'll get burnt stage' where I don't even consider doing it. 1
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