Jadedbyluv Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Just a quick summary up to now. Dated a guy for a little over a month. I was really into him. He called me up one drunken night to express his feelings and blah. I got a little over excited. Texted him one too many times. Then he said he probably didn't want to hang out anymore. He was going with his gut I heard from him yesterday. He asked to hang out. I agreed to and like always I just enjoyed being with him. I was a little apprehensive bc of what happened last week and he asked if it was awkward which made me feel awkward. When we said good bye, he said he would call me later and get together later this week. Anyway, he never did call which is no big deal. But actions do speak louder than words. I'm starting to feel like he is just playing games. He talks about how he is almost 30 and beyond that but why say one thing and do another? Why don't people follow through especially when it comes to dating?
Mr.Mango Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Why don't people follow through especially when it comes to dating? Because flaking, and generally other bad social habits, have become silently acceptable. Since nobody really gets punished for acting this way, people are less considerate of how their actions affect other people. Further similar behavior leads to becoming self centered, which is a problem we're having with our current generation. The only upside is that you can assume that most people going out of their way for something are doing it for personal gain. No matter how you look at it, (healthy) dating is an exchange, where both parties benefit. So obviously if this guy was really interested he wouldn't be acting so aloof. It also sounds like he's just messing around with you. 2
HappyLove Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Exactly, that's why nowadays especially you have to watch for actions NOT words! People will tell you anything they think you want to hear. That's why you can't blindly believe and jump into a relationship. Give that person time to live up to what they say! Or you could end up very hurt. 1
crederer Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I dunno could be many reasons. I've flaked out simply cause I had other things going on messing with my head, and thought she was "outta my league", feeling vulnerable and thought to myself "why bother, she's just eventually going to reject me". A lot of times it has just as much or more to do with the other person as it does you. 2
HappyLove Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I dunno could be many reasons. I've flaked out simply cause I had other things going on messing with my head, and thought she was "outta my league", feeling vulnerable and thought to myself "why bother, she's just eventually going to reject me". A lot of times it has just as much or more to do with the other person as it does you. But why promise someone the world and a great future and then just flake? Never to be heard from again. Doesn't that make you deceitful? Those are the types of flakes I'm talking about. 1
Author Jadedbyluv Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 But why promise someone the world and a great future and then just flake? Never to be heard from again. Doesn't that make you deceitful? Those are the types of flakes I'm talking about. Exactly how I feel. Why bother?
Mr.Mango Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 He called me up one drunken night to express his feelings and blah. His words don't follow his actions. He's already past the point of doubt and other reasons like Crederer has put. Best to let it sit. You wouldn't want to date someone who's only mildly interested anyway.
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