robbysurfs Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 (edited) I was going out with a women we broke up because she said we were different people in different phases in our lives she is a "Aquarius i am a Capricorn" that wasn't the reason tho, and broke it off with me. I went nc she would start contact then we would hook up. We would break off again then I would go nc and this cycle repeated it self a few times last yr. We had a lot of good times and laughs and with some work on both sides I personally think it could of worked. The last time we got back together around valentines day this past yr. and I would see her once a week or two times a week and we would hang out eat dinner have sex it was like we were still a couple.I took it slow and didn't push the relationship issue I knew it was kinda a no strings arraignment her idea btw because she wasn't ready to be exclusive but we did have a history and she had a vacation planned this summer to go to Africa with her girlfriends for like two months. So one day after sleeping at her apt. she just dissapeared no "goodbye" not any explanation at all. I did not turn into the weak whining ex begging and pleading after all she always initiated contact in this phase of the relationship. 1 day she didn't call and I dint call her. 1 day turned into 2 then 34567....you get the idea. I left the ball in her court to do so. Deleted my FB and went completely of the grid. It has been almost 5 months and I cannot help but think about her all the time i miss her and I do have a intuition she misses me. However I really feel it was cowardly and how could she just leave me hanging. I got no closure no NOTHING! and this is coming from the women who said I love you like 2 months in the beginning of our relationship. I don't understand and I am really hurt....I had high expectations that she could be the one.I was lead on to believe in a future between us so I hung around and let her have her cake and eat it to praying that in the end it would all work itself out. I was really nice to her and tried to be the best man I could be. I opened up a part of my heart that was closed for business. I did the things she said she needed for it to work and in the end she bounced sometimes love isn't enough for some women. What do I do now? because I am lost playing mental gymnastics wondering analyzing the whole relationship living in the past and feeling all around low....I guess its true nice guys finish last.... Edited September 3, 2013 by robbysurfs
tart6245 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 You let her use you as her doormat to get over your relationship. She let go of you slowly, while you hung on thinking she was coming back. It's a classic mistake - almost textbook. That's why I rejected my ex's request to be friends a months after we split up our relationship of 3 years. It's best to leave her alone and go full no contact. Eventually you will move on and she will be nothing but a memory. 2
carhill Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 It has been almost 5 months and I cannot help but think about her all the time i miss her and I do have a intuition she misses me. However I really feel it was cowardly and how could she just leave me hanging. I got no closure no NOTHING! Presuming you're young, this is a life lesson which will hold you in good stead. Expect nothing, care less about everything and enjoy the moments of life you're blessed with. IMO, if I finish last, I'll have outlived all my enemies and danced gleefully on their graves. Or something like that 1
Author robbysurfs Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 You let her use you as her doormat to get over your relationship. She let go of you slowly, while you hung on thinking she was coming back. It's a classic mistake - almost textbook. That's why I rejected my ex's request to be friends a months after we split up our relationship of 3 years. It's best to leave her alone and go full no contact. Eventually you will move on and she will be nothing but a memory. I have been full nc for like 5 months. I am not that young either 37 I have had many good/bad relationships It always stings when they end. The older I get the more I realize I know jack **** about women. I got my expectations to high on this one... 1
Author robbysurfs Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Presuming you're young, this is a life lesson which will hold you in good stead. Expect nothing, care less about everything and enjoy the moments of life you're blessed with. IMO, if I finish last, I'll have outlived all my enemies and danced gleefully on their graves. Or something like that This quote helps thanx bro... 1
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