Me1979 Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 I have been the OW for a bit more than one year now. The guy is my ex boyfriend, he has a girlfriend and they live together. I really care about him and if it never amounts to more than what we have now it is okay. But there is something in me that wants her to suspect that he is cheating on her. I don't want to call and say oh I saw your boyfriend with another woman or be stupid and put a note on her car but, I do want there to be something to make her think . I might sound crazy but, any other OW feel like this?
fanou22 Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 How about giving him an ultimatum? Should you decide to do so, be prepared that he might chose her.
2Confuzed Posted November 19, 2004 Posted November 19, 2004 Me1979, I understand how you're feeling. IMO, I think that part of you is hoping he will get caught so he has to make a decision. Like Fanou22 said, I think an ultimatum would work much better. Although I feel that ultimatum's are a form of manipulation, I would have to say that it would be the lesser of the two evils. I know how hard it is to be in this situation, but DO NOT TELL HER ABOUT THE AFFAIR. These types of tricks are not fool proof so if you get caught as the snitch, he will most likely choose her. As for you, he would never speak to you again. He will turn it all around and make his GF think you're some type of stalker. It wouldn't be in your best interest to do that, as tempting as it might be. Good Luck
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