crederer Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 That's exactly what dating is: seeing people until you find the one that's the right fit for you. He chose you. It;d be different if he told you he was exclusive with you and did this but that's not the case. I understand your jealousy, but at the end of the day he wasn't exclusive but CHOSE you. and you chose him.
Author MontanaGirl Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Don't let bitter and insecure LSers who can't get dates or who have had crap relationships spew sour grapes at you. Enjoy your boyfriend! Oh, to be clear, the point of my thread was never, "My boyfriend did XY&Z 9 months ago, should I break up with him?" I obviously don't like how he handled the situation, and I've appreciated reading that other people would have similar reactions as I've had, but breaking up with him wasn't a consideration for me. He's an engineer? Oh, he gets a free pass! They tend not to be the most emotionally intelligent of men but can make great husbands when they are committed. Less neurotic than the creative types. Oh lord yes. He has as classic an "engineering personality" as anyone I've ever met. I find it super endearing, even if it is frustrating at times. Crederer, he didn't say explicitly he was exclusive with me, but he made several comments that strongly implied it. He's even acknowledged that he was misleading at times; he said he had been afraid that if he were fully honest I would start dating other people too, and lose interest in him. Anyway, enough of that, I've made my feelings about that very clear. I was very cautious afterwards, waiting to see if secrecy/dishonesty/cowardice is part of his personality, and I've seen absolutely zero evidence for it. So now it's (past) time to move on.
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