DollWelch Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I have been communicating with a man online, for a number of weeks. Recently, he proposed that we start getting to know each other -i.e. text each other. He offered his number, and said he didn't want to make me uncomfortable asking for mine -and the fact that he respects my privacy. He also said to contact him when I deem it is the right time or appropriate for me. Does he expect me to give him my number? I don't know if I'm being played here. He has sent me several pictures of himself, so we have exchanged pictures back and forth. He seems legitimate. What do you think?
Philosoraptor Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Um, well... are there any bad signs. Are you interested in getting to know him better? Is the conversation good? He gave his so if you want to text him, text him. If not, then don't. But don't be surprised if he doesn't continue the online chats for too much longer as it's already been weeks of communication. 1
TB Rhine Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 You've been talking online 'for weeks' and you're skittish about texting the man? Conventional wisdom says the two of you should be hanging out in person by now. 5
KRuss Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 It sounds like if you are continuing that long in messages you are interested. You cannot start ANYTHING if you don't meet. It sounds like maybe you arent really interested in meeting. If I dont meet someone after a few messages I am not interested in a "cyber" relationship.
HappyLove Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Sorry but your the one wasting HIS time. Why bother start communicating with someone if you have no interest in eventually exchanging numbers and MEETING. Unless this was a random meeting and not through a dating site, but still. If you are uncomfortable giving your number you can use a burner app on the iPhone it gives you a temporary number or google talk does this too I believe. He seems very patient, if no blaring red flags go for it!
Author DollWelch Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Um, well... are there any bad signs. Are you interested in getting to know him better? Is the conversation good? Here is the issue: He's divorced and has a child. I don't know how I feel about this, as I have never been been with someone like that before. But I am interested in getting to know him, I like talking to him. And yes, the conversations are awesome! He gave his so if you want to text him, text him. If not, then don't. But don't be surprised if he doesn't continue the online chats for too much longer as it's already been weeks of communication. He always likes hearing from me; he admits to this almost all the time. I don't see him stopping anytime soon. You've been talking online 'for weeks' and you're skittish about texting the man? Conventional wisdom says the two of you should be hanging out in person by now. I would want to meet up with him, unfortunately he lives far away -definitely not convenient. I think it would be neat if he and I met in NYC, as a halfway point for us. But I highly doubt it. Maybe it is just meant to be an online thing.
FitChick Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I am trying to understand why you even bothered with him in the first place if you knew he had a kid and lived far away and those things disturbed you. 3
HappyLove Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I think you need to be honest with him if you feel like his situation is not what you want and he lives too far. At least don't lead him on, imagine if someone did that to you! I'd be honest, maybe he doesn't mind it only being an online friendship. But it wouldn't be fair if your not on the same page.
Ruby Slippers Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Yes, you do sound very not sure. Get clear about your goals in dating and relationships. Personally, up to now I've not dated divorced men or men with kids. I also wouldn't begin a relationship with someone who lived far away. Are these things deal-breakers to you, or can you live with them? Decide yes or no, then communicate accordingly.
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