Sarah2292 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 This is my first post on here... so I would loooove the feedback! I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, and he is the best boyfriend I have had...like, ever. He treats me so well, is so understanding, etc. But. Last night, we went drinking..and after much needed coaxing, he had me start drinking with him at like 5. Then, around 9 we went out to the bars. We were having a great time. Talking about interesting and deep convos, etc. Then we saw some coworkers of mine but I didn't want to socialize with them b/c I'm not too social and I didn't like them much. But he said I should be more social, and that I "don't like people, and I should be social". So he coaxed me into buying them some shots and have small talk.. that wasn't enough! He then said I should go over to randoms and start convo..what a great place to be social and talk to people! So I did... and it was fine, I'm glad he pushed me out of my comfort zone but then I think he was getting jealous, and said the girl I Was talking to was a lesbian and we should go. THAT'S where things went downhill. All my drinks got to me and I turned into a mess. I kept crying how "I don't know what he wants from me (to be social but not).. which is completely out of context but since I was drunk, it's all I could think about. Then, I kind of blacked out on the walk home. But, I do remember that I said he is amazing to me and I don't feel like I am good enough and yadda yadda I guess I said we should break up. Now, with my boyfriend, even joking about breaking up is SUCH a no-go. So I know I REALLY hurt him, and I feel absolutely terrible. I tried to talk about it and make sure he wasn't mad...but he said he was "over it" and still loved me, etc. etc. I have asked him a couple times the day after if he was sure he wasn't mad, and he said no. But for some reason I really think he is. I want him to talk about his feelings, b/c he has trouble doing that at times, but I don't want to be pushy/make him relive the night and maybe get more mad. I just want to make sure this isn't going to hinder our relationship because he really means a lot to me... HAAAALP!
bloominnora Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Look, you got drunk, got silly. It happens loads of people. I do however think he should respect your right to be an introvert. My son is very introverted, is quite honest about that. I respect that and don't hassle him to interact with people he doesn't want to. It's a bit worrying that he pressured you to drink when you didn't want to. I don't think you should be apologising to him, he should be apologising to you for pressuring you to drink and egging you into social interaction when you didn't want to. I think the real issue here is can he not respect your wishes?
Author Sarah2292 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Look, you got drunk, got silly. It happens loads of people. I do however think he should respect your right to be an introvert. My son is very introverted, is quite honest about that. I respect that and don't hassle him to interact with people he doesn't want to. It's a bit worrying that he pressured you to drink when you didn't want to. I don't think you should be apologising to him, he should be apologising to you for pressuring you to drink and egging you into social interaction when you didn't want to. I think the real issue here is can he not respect your wishes? Yes, I try to get him to understand.. I'm just not a social butterfly like he is. I enjoy talking to people, and it was actually fun once I started doing it.. but yeah. Also, I wouldn't say I was pressured so much as to being urged to drink with him.. I don't know, he hates to drink alone and wanted a good time, much like I did! I think I may wait a couple days and then discuss it further with him.
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