Cecelius Posted November 23, 2004 Posted November 23, 2004 This is crass, but in my opinion, if you do some serious work to absolutely rock her, and your, sexual and emotional experiences, you erase all of the other guy's input. Maybe he was no good, maybe he was wimpy or mean or whatever. If she talks about it a lot, tell her that's disrespectful and in the past, and then show her what the present is all about. If she's not passed out by they time you're done, try harder. Aside from that, how old are you? Realize that there's a pretty limited chance that you're going to be with her over the long haul. The next girl may have a lot more guys, or not. Either way, you're the prize not the other guys. And if a girl does seem as if she values it less than you do (or than other girls do), don't date her. There's nothing wrong with having standards, you just won't win by beating them or yourself into the ground.
allen10981 Posted November 24, 2004 Posted November 24, 2004 Hey, I have sorta the same problem with my current girlfriend, only we both werent virgins... I know the thought of not being able to share something special like that when you do love someone is tough, but isnt there anything between you two that you can share thats still special? She seems relatively inexperienced being with only one guy, so maybe you can alleviate your pain by trying to figure out something to do that neither she or you have done. If you have had these feelings, you should have saved it for a virgin. I have had certain girls tell me (though i dont know what kinda crack they are smoking), that when they really love someone, they will have the "other" type of sex with them. They claim it hurts worse than losing your actual virginity the first time, BUT it feels good in the end and its something you two can share that might have never been done. I dont know if your agree with this, but if you do, try it. If this is true tho, the girl HAS to love you on a level she has never, because she is willing to go thru pain to have a special thing b/w you two. Just my two cents,
Chan Posted November 25, 2004 Posted November 25, 2004 termofendearment:'Out of nowhere I'll find myself imagining him with her, doing and saying the same things he does with and to me' ino wot u mean ive beein with my b/f 14months and hes my 1st and im not his,makes you wonder how and if hes still thinking of other girls even tho were quite aware we didnt know them and its their past,i dnt make my b/f feel like its something wrong its just hard to come to terms with it probly because of the fact that i wasnt his 1st and he had that special moment with some one else not sayin its not special between us because it is i know it is but it is something that different people find them selves worrying about but i dnt think it can be helped i suppose when ur so in-love with someonce ur not gona like the fact of that other person or persons mayb if i had slept with other people my feelings and opinions on it would be totally different some people who are in relationships with their 1st sexual partner and their partners have past experiences dont even think like that but every one is different.
polycube Posted November 28, 2004 Posted November 28, 2004 youre upset cause shes had sex with 1 guy? hahahaha wait till youre older buddy...1 every 2-3 months is standard.
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