Ciel0 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I have a crush on a guy at a drink shop; I can act nomal and confident around him (aside from shaky hands). He is usually quite sweet, and always very calm (probably the calmest person I've ever met). I know it's his job to be nice, and that makes any signals harder to decipher. Other times he seems a bit avoidant; I've done this as well, though out of nervousness. We are both shy (he seems quite reserved.) We've n ever said more to eachother beyond him taking my order, and saying have a nice day. I've caught him looking at me (my mom has also), but I'm not sure if that is significant. What do you think? Could there be attraction without any OBVIOUS signs? Thank you!
Kizza Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Write your name and phone number on the side of your drink cup when you are finished drinking it. Hand it to him, smile and walk away. if he calls great! If he doesn't find another drink shop. This is better than sitting there and trying to read his thoughts and actions. What do you have to lose? 4
Author Ciel0 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 I wish I were brave enough to do that! I certainly need to be more open or I'll keep filling in the blanks
Kizza Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 You are brave enough! You just don't know it yet Do this one thing, just to see. You will feel amazing for taking the chance. 2
Author Ciel0 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Thanks! At least I would know for sure B-) I think I'll start off with small talk, which I've never done in the past two years (or so) that I've seen him lol
Author Ciel0 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Have you tried this before, and how did it work out for you?
KatZee Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Nix the cup thing. I do vaguely remember someone on here who went though this exact same thing and pulled this cup move. Then she was so distraught when she stopped seeing him and didn't hear from him. Turns out he threw the cup out without ever having seen it.
Dallers Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I like the cup idea and as you are in a drink shop it gives you a connection, buying a card and giving it to him personally I would deem that as really random and creepy. I would be flattered if a girl came and did that to me in Starbucks and it shows confidence and daring. It is so rare that a girl approaches a guy. I see it all the time and can tell a girl likes me but why should I approach all the time when there are plenty of fish in the sea. If you like him then you should approach. I would personally smile and take the number and then go on with my day. He will either call or he won't and he is not going to throw the cup back at you. It was mentioned above to change drink shop if he does not call, no way! Not for a second you carry on going to that drink shop and continue as if nothing happened otherwise you are admitting defeat. Good luck. 2
Author Ciel0 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Thank you, Dallers! I appreciate seeing your point of view; I was worried about what this guy would think about a girl making the first move.
Midnight_Princess Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 To be honest I never tried the quick note card thing nor the two girls and a cup either. Write on the card: I bought the Java..Here's my number for you to give me "dessert" . Wink Wink Wink Wink. xoxo Yours truly: "Coffee breath". Just write some quick note simple note with your number. Id hope not Lol
Kizza Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Ask him if he has a pen. He will. Write the number and your name on the cup. hand it to him, smile. Walk away 1
truth_seeker Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Other times he seems a bit avoidant; I've done this as well, though out of nervousness. We are both shy (he seems quite reserved.) So women act disinterested because they are nervous not disinterested?
Author Ciel0 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 @ DanJuanDemarco lol @truth_seeker It's a possibility if she is shy! Last time I saw my crush I was so nervous I barely even glanced at him!
Dallers Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 She already knows the dude. It's not like she's never been in there before. If it's a busy shop unless she writes it and hands it to his face with the number facing him he may not even read it and just toss it in the trash. Unless she says something to him when she hands it to him. If you just throw something in the trash when somebody who clearly likes you gives it to you and not inspect it first then you are too stupid to be on this planet let alone have a girlfriend. So then she will have got her answer and be able to move on. Eye contact, smile, cup. Remain eye contact as you walk away.....any man with a brain in his head will know that what she has just handed him has her number on it.
Author Ciel0 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 I also thought about asking for my receipt, writing my number on the back and handing to him. I really wish I could just befriend him somehow first. I would be really hurt if I scare him off and mess up any chance of a relationship.
Dallers Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 (edited) I also thought about asking for my receipt, writing my number on the back and handing to him. I really wish I could just befriend him somehow first. I would be really hurt if I scare him off and mess up any chance of a relationship. Hurt over somebody you do not even know? you are thinking about this far too much and you are preparing to fail with that attitude. He is a nobody to you and all you know about him is what you can see on the outside he could be taken or in general be an idiot who you end wishing you had never met. Go in with the attitude of nothing to lose so if you leave empty handed you are then free to go about your day as if nothing happened. Act on impulse, it may seem difficult to do but rejection got me to where I am today. Not giving a s**t Edited September 4, 2013 by Dallers 1
Author Ciel0 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 @Dallers You're right, I'm definitely over thinking this! I just need to make my move before it's too late. Didn't add that I've known him for almost 2 years... Kind of funny that we haven't said much to eachother in all this time.
Dallers Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 @Dallers You're right, I'm definitely over thinking this! I just need to make my move before it's too late. Didn't add that I've known him for almost 2 years... Kind of funny that we haven't said much to eachother in all this time. 2 years?! Woah that is a long time not to make a move. Fingers crossed for you. 1
Author Ciel0 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 2 years?! Woah that is a long time not to make a move. Fingers crossed for you. I can't be believe it's been that long already, no wonder I developed feelings for him! I didn't go by very often in the beginning though. At one point I thought he stopped working there and was pleasantly surprised to see him on a random day.
Kizza Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 I also thought about asking for my receipt, writing my number on the back and handing to him. I really wish I could just befriend him somehow first. I would be really hurt if I scare him off and mess up any chance of a relationship. The receipt idea is good! see you can do this! You have nothing to lose. If you don't give this a shot now then you will spend even more years pining over guys from afar and never getting anywhere. How old are you if you don't mind my asking? 1
Kizza Posted September 5, 2013 Posted September 5, 2013 Thank you, Kizza! I'm 21 I wish I was 21 again! I am 31! ETA: Hey if you do it! come back and tell us how it goes 2
Author Ciel0 Posted September 5, 2013 Author Posted September 5, 2013 I wish I was 21 again! I am 31! ETA: Hey if you do it! come back and tell us how it goes Haven't seen him in awhile, I hope he still works there
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