bluecrabroll Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Hi guys, I have not posted for quite some time but I wanted to post an update because I feel it is something I owe the community. As many of you know my breakup story, I was an emotional wreck and it was worse because I let her lead me on for many many months after the break up. After she started seeing someone else I decided that I finally needed to do things for me, take a step back and heal. 6 months of NC. I took myself off the grid and went 100% stealth mode. I am now seeing a girl (3 weeks) that I really like and someone different who I would thought would never picture having a relationship with (interracial). I am extremely happy with myself at this point in my life. One of the reasons because I know I can like another person again and that my world did not end when she walked out on me. I am actually moving on to bigger and better things. Now on to the interesting encounter. This past weekend I met a group of 10 old buddies in Vegas for a bachelor weekend. The very first night there, a Friday night, we spent at a strip club. Who did I run into? My EX!!!! Of all the places in the world I run into her at an ATM machine at a strip club (alone) in Vegas. When I first saw her I took a step back, got a nice look at what was in my past. She definitely lost weight but from reading her energy and body language I can tell that she was miserable, unhappy and back in the place she was before we met (being used and strung by guys and hopping relationship to relationship). I then walked up to her poked her to get her attention, shook my head at her, smiled and walked away without saying a single word to her. My buddies and I leave about 2 hours after seeing her. Outside of the strip club I see my ex waiting for a cab by herself, still looking unhappy and miserable. We just look at each other, briefly again, I say nothing and go back to being with my buddies and move on. No text, no words exchanged. Now the question is was she with someone else there? Most likely she was not alone but running into my ex at a strip club both times seeing that she was alone said words that everyone on this forum had been repeating - "red flag." And staggering out of a strip club alone without your significant other is just sad. Honestly I did not care if she was with someone or not. The only feeling I have for her is pity and a sense of sadness for her. Like she has descended down this pathway once again. But it's not my problem anymore I am healed! In looking back at the breaking up process I can say that I am a morbid person. I believe that I was hard on myself on the breakup because deep down I knew that things were not going to be good for her once she decided to leave me. I guess I did love her that much at least... it has such a hypnotic effect. I learned a lot during these past 6 months. Confidence in yourself attracts so much attention and it really does reflect a lot onto others. Never rush into any relationship until you are ready. You need to have this time to be selfish and go through the healing process and get back your self-respect. Lastly, we deserve better. So please stay strong everyone! 1
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