Spiritofmetal Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Ok so my ex broke up with me for the second time (now, I am not asking how to get him back) he said "I don't think I love you anymore" both times when HE broke up with me, he usually stopped contacting me the week before the break up, when we broke up, it seemed like he has moved on even before the break up took place... But after the first break up he texted me 2 weeks later. And we met up and i kissed him, he kissed me back but he said he wasn't sure if he loved me and he was confused. We stopped talking again and then I contacted him as a friend, a week after we stopped talking, we met again and this time he kissed me and he said I like you a lot, and we were back together, 2 days after that he said I love you. And then everything was going well.. And then we had a fight and he stopped talking to me, one week later he breaks up with me and tells me he doesn't love me anymore.. i said you actually didn't love me that's why you lose feelings so quickly and he said that's why i said you deserve someone better than me and i said "when you actually fall in real love with someone you will know it's not that easy to just lose feelings and not love them anymore" and he just said ok. The second reconcile lasted only 17 days.. I am still in love with him, i miss him so much, it's been a week since he broke up with me, yesterday was my birthday and he posted happy birthday :-) on my facebook i liked it but didnt reply to it.. SO I was just wondering how can he move on so quickly? As a matter of fact move on while he is still in a relationship with me... (Btw he doesn't like anyone because he graduated this year and school hasn't started yet, for him to meet people he can like, before he graduated I was the only one he found attractive and since I was graduating next year, we were going to maintain a long distance relationship for an year till i graduate, where we would meet up now and then to make up for the time we didn't spend together) So please my question?? ***how can he move on so quickly? As a matter of fact move on while he was still in a relationship with me...??**
JDPT Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 It's not a matter of him moving on, it's easier for him to deal as he has disclosed to you plenty of times that he is just not certain about his feelings anymore. He has a way head start at this point hence why you feel like you are still at the start line. If you ask me, he checked out long ago and I can only suggest for you to dust yourself off and move forward with your life. 2
StyleOnEm Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Yeah, he basically was already planning to break up with you much earlier than you realizing something was off. Maybe he already has a replacement, which usually makes things easier for the dumper. A lot of people are like monkeys, swinging from one branch to the next. They generally don't break up with someone until they already have someone on their mind to replace you with. It's all part of life, and there's nothing any of us can do about it. 2
hurts2death Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 i agree with both i am a big dumpee and i feel the same... hang in tight cry let it go out of you and try to repair your self..... the thing that they checked out earlier is like **** for them such liars omg.....
Ireallydontknow Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I think the whole checking out while still with you thing is garbage. At that point they are hyper sensitive to all of your actions, looking for reasons and excuses to dump you. The cowards should have to deal with their emotions like we have to. Even more cowardly is grooming someone to take your place while you are with them. It makes me so upset to think of that happening to me and all of the other kind people on here. 2
KCCK Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I understand how it feels.. gf of 2 years dump me for a guy she just met for less than a month... it's amazing how your partner can promise you everything one day and the next day told you, they have fall for another person and no longer love you... the love was never real and never deep... it was just temporary until he/she has a replacement and dump you.. please dont blame yourself for what has happened... move on as you deserve better, someone who really cares and love you.. 1
supaflyz Posted October 20, 2013 Posted October 20, 2013 I'm sorry that this happen to you. Don't try to understand the other person. Its going to take up your time. There is no point in trying to understand him is what I'm trying to to say. You will only get hurt, come up with different scenarios, blame yourself, and then probably give him another chance. He is either confuse or just don't want to hurt you by breaking up with you that is why he is telling you he is confuse (not sure if he loves you anymore). It will take some time my friend.
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