koncreterose Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Hi, So I've been dating my bf for almost 2 years now. I'm in grad school and he's working on his undergraduate degree. During the school semester, he doesn't have as much time for me as I believe is necessary for a relationship to progress. Last semester we were only seeing each other once or twice a month. I complained about it often, he felt like I was nagging; it was just not a good situation. He said school and work commitments got in the way and that our schedules were too different. He went out of town (back home) for a lot of the summer but when he was here, we spent more time together (maybe 1-2 times a week, 1 time every two weeks if we couldn't find the time otherwise). But anyway, now the semester has started again and I haven't seen him in a little over three weeks. But even worse (in these 3 weeks), we don't talk as much as we have for the duration of our relationship. We've always contacted each other every day or every other day but now we can go days w/o talking to each other UNLESS I initiate the contact. He says he's been busy adjusting to school. I've told him that this bothers me (that it would be nice to see that he was thinking of me and decided to contact me) but he pretty much blew it off as me overreacting and making something out of nothing. So I told him I didn't want to argue about it anymore and just backed off. I cut off contact with him three days ago bc I wanted to prove a point and show him that I'm not happy with being the only one that seems to put effort into our relationship. He still hasn't initiated contacting me so far. *sigh* I do believe that he loves me and I do love him, but I'm just not sure if the relationship is worth the unhappy feelings that I continue to have about this anymore. Advice?
Ruby Slippers Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I read some advice the other day that I think applies here. Summary: 1) Let him do what he wants. 2) If you like it, stay. If you don’t like it, go. There’s nothing else to think about. 3
ja123 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I read some advice the other day that I think applies here. Summary: 1) Let him do what he wants. 2) If you like it, stay. If you don’t like it, go. There’s nothing else to think about. One of the most succinct and valid dating articles I've ever read. Thanks for posting it. 1
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