DJREMIX Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 hello!! well, im here 4 some immediate advice!! well, heres my situation well, u see ive been with my girlfriend 4 about a week and a half!! i mean we met at school, and we talked 4 about a month and then we decided to go out on a date!! on our date we had a blast!! we were clickin!! she told me that she wanted to get serious with me and i wanted the same!! so we hooked up as boyfriend and girlfriend!! but today we had a long talk and she felt that we were going too fast!! so now we broke up because she felt confused and she doesnt want to be in a relationship!! but she wants to be with me though!! so my question is what exactly is the difference between, Seeing, Dating and Relationship!! i mean do u think we should start seeing each other instead of Relationship? well, write back okay i want to be with her and i dont want to lose her!! shes special to me!!
Merin Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 So many terms... Casual Dating~ When you go out and do things together/spend time together but it's understood by both parties that they are both free to date other people... Exclusive Dating~ When you go out and do things together/spend time together and it's understood by both parties that they are NOT dating anyone else... Relationships~ Something that develops over time after spending time with one another.. it becomes more serious.. feelings become more indepth and committments become more important... Honestly, I feel a week just isn't long enough to have been dating to determine if it's to be a relationship. She sounds like she still wants to date you so go slow here.. Good Luck
Author DJREMIX Posted November 16, 2004 Author Posted November 16, 2004 Well, i was wondering if u can go from relationship to casual dating? i mean we both dont want to date other people i want to be with her
tattoomytoe Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 well there are no set rules or progressions in any relationship. each of you need to discuss what y'all want, what your bounderies and expectation are and what they are not. this is a great way to work on communication skills too, and it is easier on both of you if you discuss and agree on the aspects of what you both want this relationship to be.
alphamale Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Are you 13 years old? You must be if you call her your girlfriend after "dating" for 10 whole days. Usually a man and woman become bf/gf after seeing each other for three to six months.
savethedrama4allama Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Well this is perhaps demented but I always catagorized my relationships on if we were having sex or not. If we're having sex, we're boyfriend/girlfriend, because it should be exclusive and we shouldn't be seeing anyone else. You sound pretty young though, are you?. I wouldn't worry about "defining" the relationship per se, just as long as you're both clear on the boundaries (is dating others okay, etc?) so that feelings don't get hurt. Just enjoy eachother's company without so much pressure.
DayumQuitPlayin Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 I'm not going to define those different Terms.. thanks to someone who already done it. Ima just give advise. Well.. if she's the one who broke up with you.. and You still want to be with her.. then you should listen to her. Read body language.. understand her thoughts. If she feels that you guys are going too fast.. then slow down. I've seen this happen so many times. You should follow her lead. Take things slow.. maybe don't see eachother every day.. on a daily basis.. because that tends to get 'old, boring'. If you guys do see eachother.. plan events. Know what you guys will be doing. Always keep it alive... learn what she likes.. enjoys.. and then surprise her with doing something that you know she'll like. You just got to really understand what she's all about. She wants to go slower.. so go slower. Don't be so touchy-feely with her.. because that could be a reason too. Sometimes they feel that they're getting too much attention.. so you should back off. It's all about reading body language.. understanding them.. and learning to follow. Talk things through with her.. ask her what she likes and don't like about your relationship. Just go from there. Good Lucc Young Bucc
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