We've been seeing eachother for 2 months now and...

[amcdaniel1011]

So we've been seeing eachother for 2 months now and I just dont know where I stand. Let me give a little history about our pasts and ages

 

He is 38 got in a relationship at 17 and was married at 19. They stayed together for 15 years and he is now 38. From what I've gathered he has had 1 relationship that has lasted 6-8 months since his divorce 3 years ago (they broke up in march)

 

I am 30 years old and dated a few different men my younger (teen) years and got into a few relationships, had a child then married my now ex husband at 23 where I had 2 more children. Ive been divorced for 4 years and havent had a SERIOUS relationship since. Ive been afraid of getting hurt. I was in a relationship last year that I thought might be something but it turned out he had a SHLEW of issues and hurt me. Since then I haven't been with anyone. Ive had 2 FWB during the last year in a half. Then I met this guy.

 

I crushed on him for 4 months before I actually talked to him. (I run a pizza shop that my dad owns and he comes in about once a week) So I finally messaged him over facebook. (he is a cancer and an irishman, both of which dont make first moves) so after about a week of talking we went out on a date. Now I dont like to say this but it was like 6 months since I had had sex so well we did it. I stayed the night and went to work the next day. But then I stayed the next night we went out and came back and we had sex again. THEN the following week (he gets his kids every other weekend) I only stayed one night. But as time had been going by the amount of nights I spend at his house is getting larger. I clean and cook and so does he on his nights off. We go out sometimes but mostly we stay in. He's not that affection and we dont have sex as often as I like, but I am completely attracted to him. He works 14 hours days 5 days a week and i work 10 hour days 6 days a week. So we are a tired couple.

 

And that is my question.... ARE WE A COUPLE. Are we together? How do I know we are together? Normally men just tell me they love me after 2 weeks, That has been my pattern. Not to toot my own horn... I am a pretty girl take care of myself and the man I am with. I give my all when I like someone. He doesnt have to do anything at the house. I would do it all. So please HELP ME!

[Philosoraptor]

Well if he's been lacking action all through, he's probably not going to initiate any kind of relationship talk either.

 

Are you happy with what you two are doing? If so, does a label really change anything? I'd simply mention being exclusive and see how he takes to that. He may be stumped and say he thought you two were a couple as you are worried about, he may say yes to being exclusive, or he may say no. Anyways, you will get a result this way versus spending time wondering.