mortensorchid Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 About two months ago, I met this guy in a bar. He was/is a mutual friend of some others. He's not Mr. Right by any means, he's Mr. Right Now. We've gotten together a few times, last weekend I was with him again. He said something that I've heard before. He asked me what I see in him. I asked what he meant by that. He said "I'm a poor guy, I don't have much. I have a job and all, but you're a lot smarter than me and you have more going for you. I'm sure some other guy with a lot more to offer would come along and you'd go for him." I was sad to hear him say that, because it's the truth really. I never thought he was a loser but that's a loser thing to say. Unfortunately I saw what he was really saying, that he thinks I am too good for him. I wish I hadn't heard it before, but I have. What's sad is that they must think that there are lines of better guys out there snaked around the corner waiting for me, and there aren't. The "better guys" don't want good women, they would rather have trashy ones. At least, that's my experience. My response was the only one I could think of "The world's full of lonely people." 1
CptSaveAho Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 good women dont hook up with Mr Right now, they wait for Mr Right
MrCastle Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 He asked me what I see in him. I asked what he meant by that. He said "I'm a poor guy, I don't have much. I have a job and all, but you're a lot smarter than me and you have more going for you. I'm sure some other guy with a lot more to offer would come along and you'd go for him." I was sad to hear him say that, because it's the truth really. Very endearing. 1
Ruby Slippers Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 The "better guys" don't want good women, they would rather have trashy ones. Yet you're the one hanging out with a guy you describe as a loser. The "better guys" don't want good women, they would rather have trashy ones. This is the false belief that is standing in your way of happiness and keeping you lonely. I've noticed you are very attached to this idea. I've seen it appear in most of your posts over the months (years?) I've read them here. What do you mean by a good woman? What do you mean by trashy? 1
nescafe1982 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I have to admit I'm not familiar with OP, but all the rush to judgement? What's wrong with a woman hooking up with Mr. Right Now if that's what she wants to do? OP if you are looking for someone more than this, you should stop dating dudes that are below your league. Or at least dudes with a better sense of self-esteem. The part about "good guys always want trashy women" is just not true. Do you believe that, honestly?
MrCastle Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I have to admit I'm not familiar with OP, but all the rush to judgement? What's wrong with a woman hooking up with Mr. Right Now if that's what she wants to do? I think the bigger issue was the man saying she can do better and her admitting that she can. Or, at the very least thinks she can. Let the guy off the hook if she admits she'll take better when better comes along. Save him the attachment.
nescafe1982 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I think the bigger issue was the man saying she can do better and her admitting that she can. Or, at the very least thinks she can. Let the guy off the hook if she admits she'll take better when better comes along. Save him the attachment. Aha. I think I read into the original post too much. I was thinking she and this guy were mutually casual. I reread the post and it looks like she's not into him but he's into her and feeling insecure because she's not that into him. Do I have this right, mortensorchid? If so, stop leading him on. It's not nice. And if you hear "I don't know what you see in me" a lot, it's because you're dating men you aren't into all that much. They know it.
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