Mangledmess Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I was in the military before I met my ex. We split up just a little over a month ago. I met up with her yesterday and we had an excellent time. We also have a kid together so it was nice for people to see us as a couple again and comment on our child. I think she felt that way too. Well I told her I was leaving a couple days ago and when she asked where I was going, I told her it was personal. When we met, she asked me a couple of times where I was going. I told her it was personal and changed the subject. At the end of our day, we sat down to eat. I told her I was going to a veterans facility to get back in shape and screened so I could resign. She knew I barely made it out with my life the last time because of how dangerous my job was. Well, she drove me around to my car and we hugged and she was crying. She does not want me to go back. She told me to call and FaceTime more often and I told her I didn't know if I would be able to. She did t ask me to stay. She didnt asked much of anything but expressed that she never did want me to go back to the military. I was crying as well because I knew that I am going to have NC with her for a while. It really sucks but I can not afford to drive all the way to see my son anyway. I know he will be well taken care of and I feel this is the only way for her to think she has lost me for good and to have NC. I did this because I want to give her time to miss me. I want her to text me and see if I will reply. I want us back together and it's sad that if I am always at her becon call to see my boy, I do not think she will want us back together. Thoughts? Opinions?
ForeverHopeful1 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 So your relationship with your son will suffer, and that's fine with you? All in the name of making her miss you? Interesting thought process. I have to say, its very strange. You have a son who you're assuming "will be well taken care of" anyway. I don't understand neglecting your son simply because you want to be with her. You cant make someone love you. You will only drive your son away in the process though. I just don't think he should be punished for this. Did you ever think that maybe she cant be with you because your in the military. A close GF of mine is divorcing her army husband because he won't stop going back to fight when they are fine financially and he could quit and work here at a desk job, safe and sound....... where they can easier their 4 kids together. She feels his job means more than her or their children and he has been close to death once already himself. It rationally doesn't make sense to put himself in that situation anymore where he could die and she feels so alone anyway. She knows she can do this badly alone.
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