gypsy25 Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Alright, so here's the thing....I have been dating someone for 5 months now and I need some advice on some things. I've never had a "serious" relationship where I feel like I really truly love another person, but it's finally happened with this guy. I have fallen in love with him. So anyways, last friday he said to me "You love me don't you....?" I hesitated and said "maybe" sorta jokingly and he was getting ready to go to work and as he was waslking out the door I said "Babe, I do love you..." This was the first time I told him that and he'd never told me before but I had to say it. I know it was probably stupid because I don't know what his feelings for me are but I couldn't wait any longer to tell him. So anyway, it's not like I was expecting him to say it back but all he did say was "I'll call you tonight". That was it. What do you think is going through his mind right now? I haven't talked to him about it sonce but it just seemed a little weird to me. Any thoughts? Thanks =) Also, just a random question here....Since I've never really been in a commited relationship before, what is normal behavior as far as phone calls and initiation is concerned? I mean girls, do you call your guy everyday if he doesn't call you? Do you ask to get together or is it usually him? I'm just askin cause I don't know what's noraml and what isn't. Thanks again =)
Majik45 Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Be Glad you said I love you if that's how you feel. Life's too short to not tell people how you really feel about them. I hope it just caught him off guard and he didn't know how to respond. I sprung the L word on my girl about a month ago, and she didn't know if that's how she felt at the time. Well, in reality, it just caught her off guard and she told me later in the week, saying that's how she really felt about me, just couldn't say it right then. I hope that's the case for you.
Barby Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 I agree you should be honest about how you feel. There is no reason to hide how you really feel about someone.
GirlDown Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 there must be a reason he brought up the subject in the first place by saying "you love me, don't you" maybe he wants to say it, and that was his way of seeing how you would react. if he's thinking about saying it to you, perhaps he wanted it to be special and didn't want to be a rushing-out- he-door kinda thing. personalyy, i think he loves you.
dwsgirl Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 Agreed! I think he loves you too. He'll tell you when he finds the right moment. As far as your question about phone call frequency and initiated hang-out sessions, it depends on the couple. Depends on how busy you both are with work and outside interests. I usually e-mail my guy every day, just short e-mails to say "hi". On the weekends its normal for me to stay at his place and then during the week I stay at mine. Sometimes he'll stay at mine a couple nights. There's no real "normal" dating rules to follow. If you feel like seeing him alot then tell him and set up nights to spend together. If your smothering him then I'm sure he'll gently let you know. Have fun with your relationship!
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