irc333 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I was out with some friends, it was a Meetup event at the local lake. We were all at the beachside and prior to that we had all sat together eating at a restaurant. I had built up some pretty good rapport with this one woman and I just found myself rather attracted to her. Anyway, she said if we'd all like to go down by the beach and we did. Then she had her sunblock out and was putting it on her arms and her front....and then I noticed she was kind of "strugging" putting it on her back. I usually keep my yapper shut, but she was single, no boyfriend, so I figured I'd offer up my assistance...asked her if she needed help with the sunblock. She said, "No...that's fine..." and she kind of sounded awkward when she said it. Then her cousin chimed in and said, "Go ahead and let him help, it's no big deal" And she looks at her, and says, "well..um..I dunno" Then her cousin look sat me and says, "go help her out" and I thought "What the heck, I'll go ahead and be bold as oppose to sit idle and took action" She said to me, "Well, you can do it if you want to I suppose" and she let me. And then she returned the favor. Nothing got sexual, but I know some women would rather just grab a female friend that would do it for them...but actually, and I'm being honest....that it was a confidence builder....not the fact that it made me feel good that she let me, but that I was bold enough to do what I did. Not sure women here would agree that was a creepy thing to do, but I think it's not so bad if the woman had built enough familiarity with you, esp if she knows you from previous events. I just hadn't seen her in a long time. (Think she was dating someone)
nescafe1982 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Not creepy, I guess, but very, very, very awkward. If I was in the same situation I would deny flat out... but I'm more outspoken then most ladies (and perhaps a bit more prude too). A think a lot of girls would be afraid of looking like they're "going there" (in effect calling you inappropriate or creepy) if they said "no, I don't want you to do that." They would then allow a man to put their sunblock on, but it would be incredibly awkward. I mean, if you aren't good friends first or anything, a personal space bubble is important. Edit to add: when I first read this thread title, I thought to myself "Sunblock-ortunity!"
Author irc333 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Well,I guess you had to be there...but, it didn't seem she was entirely opposed to it either. It wasn't like "No, thanks I got it", but she was kind of wishy washy about it. Or, maybe I recall, she never did give a straight answer on it either. I felt we had enough "bonding" time between us to consider doing it. Not creepy, I guess, but very, very, very awkward. If I was in the same situation I would deny flat out... but I'm more outspoken then most ladies (and perhaps a bit more prude too). A think a lot of girls would be afraid of looking like they're "going there" (in effect calling you inappropriate or creepy) if they said "no, I don't want you to do that." They would then allow a man to put their sunblock on, but it would be incredibly awkward. I mean, if you aren't good friends first or anything, a personal space bubble is important. Edit to add: when I first read this thread title, I thought to myself "Sunblock-ortunity!"
MrCastle Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 The issue seemed like it was bigger than it needed to be. "Here let me help you with that," as you start squeezing some into your hand. 2
Author irc333 Posted September 4, 2013 Author Posted September 4, 2013 Hm, I figured I'd be kind of an icebreaker of sorts, but if she's interested, I guess it's a moot situation. Not creepy, I guess, but very, very, very awkward. If I was in the same situation I would deny flat out... but I'm more outspoken then most ladies (and perhaps a bit more prude too). A think a lot of girls would be afraid of looking like they're "going there" (in effect calling you inappropriate or creepy) if they said "no, I don't want you to do that." They would then allow a man to put their sunblock on, but it would be incredibly awkward. I mean, if you aren't good friends first or anything, a personal space bubble is important. Edit to add: when I first read this thread title, I thought to myself "Sunblock-ortunity!"
Imajerk17 Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 (edited) The issue seemed like it was bigger than it needed to be. "Here let me help you with that," as you start squeezing some into your hand. I agree. It came across that it was kind of a big deal to you and that probably was conveyed too much to her. It almost sounded that you were asking her for some "touch". So she stiffened up and said no. "Here let me help you out with that" and then it is on her to object. If she does, then be cool about it, it's "OK". And then when you do put the sunblock on her back, just put the sunblock on her. Then have her return the favor. Be cool and comfortable and rub it in, but don't linger or anything. That will be for next time. Edited September 4, 2013 by Imajerk17 1
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