Skippy89 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I am a guy, I have a female friend who is 4 years younger than me. Is it okay to ask her if her older sister (who is the same age as me) has a boyfriend? I've never met her sister. I've only seen a few pictures of her on my friends Facebook page. Or would that be weird?
salparadise Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 It could be a little weird but depends entirely on the friend and your relationship with her. If she secretly wishes it was more than friendship, or if she has a tendency to be jealous of her sister then it's possible her feelings could be hurt. But if she's very secure, has zero notions about being more than friends with you, and is someone who would be happy for you and her sister, then no harm. But then there's also the question about whether there would be implied expectation that she facilitate getting you two together. Is there not another way to figure out the sister's status?
Author Skippy89 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 (edited) It could be a little weird but depends entirely on the friend and your relationship with her. If she secretly wishes it was more than friendship, or if she has a tendency to be jealous of her sister then it's possible her feelings could be hurt. But if she's very secure, has zero notions about being more than friends with you, and is someone who would be happy for you and her sister, then no harm. But then there's also the question about whether there would be implied expectation that she facilitate getting you two together. Is there not another way to figure out the sister's status? I'm pretty sure she just views me as a friend, but I'm not 100% sure. The thing is that I know my friend is single. I do not want to hurt her feelings if I'm inquiring about her sister. I can't think of any other way to find out her sister's status. Edited September 3, 2013 by Skippy89
SincereOnlineGuy Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 If you are age 44, and the younger sister is 40, with a crush on you, then it might not be so ideal an approach. However, if you are seventeen, with the little sister thirteen, then despite the still-chance that the younger girl has some sort of a crush on you, it is reasonable that you might make such an inquiry. 2
kaylan Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 It depends on how your friends feels about you. If your absolutely sure your friend doesn't like you, ask away. However if she may be into you, you risk making the friendship awkward.
Lani Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 If you do ask, and she is single, what happens next?
TB Rhine Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Yeah, I'm curious about their ages. They must be young, or I don't feel he would have bothered to point out the age difference. Why are you talking to a girl who's four years younger than you? How came the two of you to be friends?
Author Skippy89 Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Yeah, I'm curious about their ages. They must be young, or I don't feel he would have bothered to point out the age difference. Why are you talking to a girl who's four years younger than you? How came the two of you to be friends? We work together in retail. I'm 23.
TB Rhine Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Pfft. Well then, it's settled. Pick one and go to town. Is the younger sister unattractive or something? Otherwise, unless you have some strong reason to feel she might be into you and you might be hurting her feelings, I'd say go for it.
crederer Posted September 4, 2013 Posted September 4, 2013 Yah that's fine. Go for it. Just don't be weird about it.
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