Dream healing technique for a broken heart

[Heart of the Desert]

I would like to share a Dreaming technique to heal a broken heart.

 

In this technique we place our attention on the physical aspects of heart ache, treating our pains as actual physical wounds in our minds eye. This can provide us with profound subconscious images with the power to heal. Though the thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations of heart ache are truly inseparable, when we are going through heart ache the tendencies is to get stuck in psycho emotional thought loops as a processing mechanism. While I am an advocate for thinking through things as we process, the trouble with this is that we can get stuck in cycles that only perpetuate our suffering. When we find images which symbolize and consolidate our experience we can then forgo these thought cycles, replacing them with potent visualizations that help us move on.

 

Any one who has gone through heart ache knows that there is actually physical pain involved. Usually in the chest but can also occur other places as well such as the stomach or head. When we find ourselves alone and our emotions and thoughts are raging and our physical pain is at its most acute, this is the time to use the technique. Lay down and focus on deep, smooth, even breaths. You are probably going to want to get up and distract yourself or go back into thought cycles, but don't. Just sit through the pain and breath deeply. Observe your thoughts and emotions and physical sensations as the rise and fall. Don't try to change them, just observe. Breath. Now, once you have started to become more of a passive observer, you must set your intention. You must be strong in your intention and be absolutely ready to follow through. This assuredness in intention is key, it is what will guide you. Your intention can be something like "I want to finally heal from this heart ache and be done for good with it. I want to heal. I want to be done" Keep this intention in mind the entire time. Now focus on the physical pains from your heart ache. As you feel the pain notice what imagery starts to come to mind. Allow the images to flow, no matter what you see the images will lead the way. Trust what you see and follow your intuition. For example, if you see your heart wrapped in thorny vines you may feel inclined to visualize your self pulling the thorns out, or maybe the vines are all dried up and need watering so you visualize watering them. Or maybe your heart is surounded by bees and you must swat them away. Take note of the sensations that acomany the imagery. Where there is a feeling of pain from the thorns, there is a feeling of releif when the thorns are lifted. If there is acute pain somewhere besides your heart feel free to see what that is all about, but always focus on the most prominent area. Trust your intuition, follow the imagery, be steady in your intention. You will know when the meditation is complete. Once you have found the imagery for yourself you can use it anytime any where whenever things start to get crazy again. You see a cafe you two used to go to and you start to think of him. Instead of getting all worked up and lost in thought you just visualize the healing imagery and things even out pretty quickly. No two persons experience with this technique will be the same, though I have spoken with people who have remarkably similar experiences.

 

This is my experience with the technique

I am at the end of my rope. I cannot take it any more, I just want to be done with it for good. I am on my knees, crying, and grabbing my chest. Oh how my chest hurts. It feels like a piece of my lover is lodged into my heart. I decide to lay down and find out what this pain is about. I breath deeply. I keep stating my intention "I want to heal, I want to be done" I start to visualize my chest pain as an actual wound. There is a large piece of glass lodged in my chest. Makes sense doesn't it? Because after all that is what it feels like. I can feel the presence of an angel who is here to help me with the "Surgery" . It is not uncommon one will see and feel the presence of a helper, be it a friend and animal or an angel. Don't be afraid to ask for "help" if you feel you would need it. The angel removes the glass from my chest. I now see my chest as a gaping wound, but even deeper I can feel something moving around in there. What is it? it feels like a part of my ex lover. It is kicking around trying to get out. I reach inside the gaping wound and pull out a beautiful white parrot. It is her parrot, it some how got trapped in my chest. I send it off, telling it to go back to her because it doesn't belong with me. The parrot will fly off but keep coming back (bringing tons of thoughts about the past with it), and every time it does I send it away again. I know it will just take persistence before it finally is gone. Now I must close the hole in my chest. The angel rubs a healing balm on my chest and shows me how if I rub my hand over my chest and visualise the healing balm covering my wound I will actual experience emotional, psychological, and physical relief. It is like dressing an actual physical wound. I am told to do this every time I start to feel the pain again. The operation is complete. For the next few weeks after my meditation, every time my thoughts start to go wild about her I stop and visualize the parrot, it is hanging around again. I send it away "go back to her you do not belong here anymore". If my chest starts to hurt or I am overly emotional, rather than getting stuck in a loop "what did I do wrong, why did she do this to me, ect ect ect..." I just visualize rubbing the healing balm on my chest and the pain subsides. It is sweet relief. Before i know it, the pain is less frequent and less intense. Then one day, gone. Now all I have to do is go on with my life making it better than ever. I learned so much from the pain and now I can work on attracting a partner who is more true to who I am.

 

I hope this helps and inspires. please feel free to ask questions, or share thoughts. I am curious if any one else has had an experience like this?

Edited September 2, 2013 by Heart of the Desert

[todreaminblue]

i have found when i have passionate love making in my dream it makes me feel better all frisky and happy...kidding....maybe not.......

 

 

i think when your heart si ready to heal it heals...i think you can keep yrou mind busy but in the still of the night, when all is quiet and i miss holding my best friend and sharing dreams and plans and even fears.... as we talked and whispered and giggled until one of us used to fall asleep, when i am missing that special person i dotn have in my life, there is no technique that makes me feel better ...i simply miss those times...not necessarily with my ex now but miss sharing myself with someone and knowing them..... the technique that works best for me is pretty fool proof for me, i accept the pain, i accept sometimes i get really lonely and sad and all around me is just silence no laughs no talking no dreams no giggles no soft touches........so yes when you are missing those special jsut between you and another moments in your life,you are going to feel sad....who wouldnt feel sad....its a normal natural thing to feel..............but i know that sadness will fade one day over time

 

heartbreak and sadness is as much a part of life as happiness and a swollen heart full fo love is....when you experience sadness it opens you up to know one day down the track ,true joy.....and i do know true joy ...i embrace it, and look forward to that feeling...i remember it.........this is how i can move on with tomorrow when the sun comes up because i know time heals and theres a purpose for everything you feel do and are a part of...its called life.....and true joy will always be a day closer for everyone experiencing heartbreak that day is tomorrow it will happen, it will always be that one day closer........and tomorrow always shines with unknown hope and promise of blue skies...if you want to see them..........deb

Edited September 2, 2013 by todreaminblue

[Heart of the Desert]

Totally, sadness is natural and not something we have to avoid or push away. The technique is more about carying through the crippling pain where our entire life is revolving around the memory of this person. There is a difference between missing some one you cared about and thinking about them, and obsessing for days or weeks about the person, writhing around on the floor balling. This technique is a tool to help us with the later of the two.

 

Indeed though, pain is just as real and important as joy. Without one we have not the other. Why though must we wait until tomorrow, when today is our day to shine!

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

Edited September 2, 2013 by Heart of the Desert

[todreaminblue]

Totally, sadness is natural and not something we have to avoid or push away. The technique is more about carying through the crippling pain where our entire life is revolving around the memory of this person. There is a difference between missing some one you cared about and thinking about them, and obsessing for days or weeks about the person, writhing around on the floor balling. This technique is a tool to help us with the later of the two.

 

Indeed though, pain is just as real and important as joy. Without one we have not the other

Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

 

 

you are welcome....i appreciate your thoughtful and meditative opening post......hugs...deb