Jenny1234 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I sometimes pass by the mirror and think wow is that me....wow I look alot better on the outside then I feel on the inside..... when I get all dolled up to go out I can't believe how pretty I am! I guess a breakup does a real number on your self esteem 2
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Yeah I do. Following that I usually run to the gym and beat the c*rap out of my fat cells lol. Your time will come honey, your inside will heel and be equally as awesome as the outside x 2
hopefulfaerie Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Yes! I make it a point to shower, put on makeup, accessorize, the works. Even if I am staying home that day. I think "If I look good, I will feel good" I have always been that way. But yeah, a few weeks ago I was out with friends and there was a really HOT I mean HOT guy checking me out. I DIDN'T EVEN NOTICE. I was so into the pity party and if "EX" doesn't want me so I must not be worthy....blah blah blah. It REALLY messes with the self esteem! How could it not though? Rejection just SUCKS! And not just rejection but also the dreaded "He may love and care about me but he still prefers someone else" Hang in there! ((HUGS))
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I absolutely agree. I've been going to the gym twice a day. I'm making it a routine that I'm starting to really like specially because of the positive results both physically and mentally. I remember while I was in the sauna a few weeks ago having a conversation with a guy who was there. I happened to disclosed to him that I was currently going through a breakup and that I wasn't feeling 100%, his response was "keep coming, breakups make bodybuilders..." I'm really starting to believe it now. At certain times I wish my ex could see me but then I think, nah I'm doing this for me! 2
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I absolutely agree. I've been going to the gym twice a day. I'm making it a routine that I'm starting to really like specially because of the positive results both physically and mentally. I remember while I was in the sauna a few weeks ago having a conversation with a guy who was there. I happened to disclosed to him that I was currently going through a breakup and that I wasn't feeling 100%, his response was "keep coming, breakups make bodybuilders..." I'm really starting to believe it now. At certain times I wish my ex could see me but then I think, nah I'm doing this for me! HAHA He aint wrong at all! I got talking to one of the buff guys in the gym late last week. He said that there break up was his muse. She told him he wasn't good enough so he got his ass in the gym and make her sit up and take notice of him. When I feel like I don't want to go... he is my muse. The next time, if ever I see him again I want to look better than I do now and make him regret what he did. a little spiteful and vain? yeah but who the hell cares. I lost 8lbs this week LOL 2
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 HAHA He aint wrong at all! I got talking to one of the buff guys in the gym late last week. He said that there break up was his muse. She told him he wasn't good enough so he got his ass in the gym and make her sit up and take notice of him. When I feel like I don't want to go... he is my muse. The next time, if ever I see him again I want to look better than I do now and make him regret what he did. a little spiteful and vain? yeah but who the hell cares. I lost 8lbs this week LOL Good for you, keep up the good work.
todreaminblue Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I sometimes pass by the mirror and think wow is that me....wow I look alot better on the outside then I feel on the inside..... when I get all dolled up to go out I can't believe how pretty I am! I guess a breakup does a real number on your self esteem i slide along walls to avoid mirrors.....deb
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 haha thanks! quitting coke (fizzy kind) was the best thing I ever did for me! Although there is a bag of malteasers upstairs with my name on them xx 3
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 haha thanks! quitting coke (fizzy kind) was the best thing I ever did for me! Although there is a bag of malteasers upstairs with my name on them xx I changed my diet completely. I went back to eating the way I used to prior to meeting her, nothing but high protein and greens. The only thing I still indulge in is iced tea, I need something with flavor. Gave up so many things months ago for the better. I like going to the gym, you find very interesting people there who are also looking to vent their issues. 1
hopefulfaerie Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 i slide along walls to avoid mirrors.....deb Why? I bet you are beautiful! 1
todreaminblue Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Why? I bet you are beautiful! aww thankyou..hugs.........my heart is beautiful its what you see on ehre sometimes when i am not being goofy... cant see heart in a mirror.....lol...i dont really slide along walls like the pink panther to avoid mirrors...i only do that when avoiding soemone who makes my heart race he is my mirror..........grinnin.....not that it works i normally get busted sliding along a wall....or there he is right in front of me sort of scenario...I dont look in mirrors very often, have no desire too.....my daughter does my makeup so i dont have to stand in front of a mirror and look at myself...for that long....i check that i look decent, my puppies are secure and cant escape or be seen..;0). i did smile at myself in the mirror a couple of weeks ago....first time in many eyars.....and i am smilin atcha now....thanks for the sweet comment...you are beautiful too...i see your heart too hopefulgarden sprite.....exit stage left....slidin....slidin.....gone..deb 2
May72 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Yes! I'm surprised by myself sometimes on how good I look when I take the time out to get dolled up. Unfortunately I'm still suffering from the end of my longterm relationship and rejection from ex so therefore I still feel very unworthy.. I'd get looks and hit on by guys when I'm out and compliments from several women also; it makes me feel good for the day but the next I'm pretty much back to thinking, my ex didn't want me so I must not be all that. 1
Heartbroken Eagle Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 This sounds so familiar... Since my break up I lost 3 and a half stones in 6 months. I must admit it has been fantastic receiving compliments from friends and relatives about how much better I've been looking. Even the ex made a few comments when dropping my son back to her. But inside I still feel like crap and so low in confidence!!!! 1
Heartbroken Eagle Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 And like MummyJonno, I have a weakness for Malteasers too. They are evil, especially when they call out my name when I'm feeling weak... :-) 3
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 LOL eagle! I only had 4 last night. Mainly due to them melting on my fingers. Evil yumminess x
unexpectedlyhere Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Oh yes I feel AWESOME in that regard! Lost about 9kg in a month and a half, got a bit tanned... there is no longer much to grab and swing about in my thighs... I feel one hot kitten! I do feel it's a shame to look the best I ever have and then be teary eyed or sad looking so I'm trying to smile, radiate confidence or happiness or calm... Fail rate still a bit high on that one but I'll get there! 1
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 You will indeedy and when you do... You'll have much more confidence and pleasure in doing it xx
JamesM Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Yes. After losing more than 40# in the past year or so, it does feel good to step in front of a mirror. It is nice to see me at the weight I was more than 20 years ago. On the other hand, I look at myself and wonder where all of the hair went! But to your point....your beauty never left because he did. The mirror reminds you of that fact. There will definitely be another man who will be glad to be your "mirror" and verbally show you your reflection.
JDPT Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 This has moprhed into a health & fitness topic lol
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 This has moprhed into a health & fitness topic lol Be quiet and do some squats :laugh::laugh: xxx 2
JDPT Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Be quiet and do some squats :laugh::laugh: xxx Oh I went to the gym this morning, where have you been!? Also went to my PT session, getting pampered and taken care of by cute girls. There is a girl there that I found extremely attractive, am I making progress? lol
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Oh I went to the gym this morning, where have you been!? Also went to my PT session, getting pampered and taken care of by cute girls. There is a girl there that I found extremely attractive, am I making progress? lol I believe they could consider that progress... I still don't find anyone else attractive! 2 hour session with my personal trainer.. leaving me with a face that looked like I'd washed in beetrout... FUN TIMES
JDPT Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 I believe they could consider that progress... I still don't find anyone else attractive! 2 hour session with my personal trainer.. leaving me with a face that looked like I'd washed in beetrout... FUN TIMES My PT is slight different from yours, my stands for physical therapy. I found her to be very cute. I was making very subtle conversation trying to slither my way in lol... I'm proud of myself.
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 My PT is slight different from yours, my stands for physical therapy. I found her to be very cute. I was making very subtle conversation trying to slither my way in lol... I'm proud of myself. I'm proud of you too! Well done you!
KatZee Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 Oh yes, this happens to me all the time. But more often than not its not a "wow is that me!? I'm so cute!" It's more of a "damn. Is that me? How the hell did I allow myself to leave the house looking like this???!" No seriously though, I get what you're saying. There are some days where everything just comes together so perfectly. The makeup the outfit the hair and I see my reflection and I'm like "dang I look good!" But the days I truly feel attractive are sporadic. Don't get me wrong, I'm an attractive girl and I get called out all the time. People have stopped me in the street to tell me I'm gorgeous, someone followed me off an elevator once and called me stunning. I truthfully don't see what they see at all. I was teased when I was younger for bad hair/skin/clothes, and I've been in some emotionally wrecking relationships. So it doesn't matter what we look like on the outside. You won't see it or believe it until you feel that way on the inside.
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