zoya_j Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 hi i've been lurking here a while and this is my first post. my situation is we started out as 'friends' and it turned into somethng more we definitely had our issues, i tried to break it off with him a few times but he never went away. about two weeks ago he broke up with me and i was like fine. But he still wanted to call me everyday like nothing had changed until i told him to stop calling and initiated NC. did this stop him? no it didn't he'd call from different numbers and call and hang up. Plus he's been seen circling my house. today i was going out to lunch when i saw him pass by the parking lot where i work. what i don't get is why if you don't want someone anymore (he broke things off with me) why is he doing all of this? i just want to know why. any ideas? before the nc he would always dial my # by mistake and now after the NC he hasn't mistakenly dialed my # once.
bluechocolate Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 what i don't get is why if you don't want someone anymore (he broke things off with me) why is he doing all of this? He probably thought that him ending in would result in you begging to be taken back - and it didn't work out that way. Start writing down the phone calls & phone numbers & take note of these "sightings". Keep up the no contact but remain vigilant. Chances are he'll tire of his childish little game when he comes to the realisation that it isn't getting him away. If he doesn't then you should seriously consider reporting him to the local police (hence the note taking).
Weird Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 wtf. Sounds like he wants you back but instead of just saying that he has resorted to stalking you. Stupid.
tiki Posted November 16, 2004 Posted November 16, 2004 He's stalking you. I agree with BC, document, document. Let someone else know the situation. Don't ever go back to hi, this guy sounds like a psycho. If your safety is in harms way, obtain a restraining order. It's a sick world. Stay safe!
theone44 Posted November 17, 2004 Posted November 17, 2004 Originally posted by zoya_j hi i've been lurking here a while and this is my first post. my situation is we started out as 'friends' and it turned into somethng more we definitely had our issues, i tried to break it off with him a few times but he never went away. about two weeks ago he broke up with me and i was like fine. But he still wanted to call me everyday like nothing had changed until i told him to stop calling and initiated NC. did this stop him? no it didn't he'd call from different numbers and call and hang up. Plus he's been seen circling my house. today i was going out to lunch when i saw him pass by the parking lot where i work. what i don't get is why if you don't want someone anymore (he broke things off with me) why is he doing all of this? i just want to know why. any ideas? before the nc he would always dial my # by mistake and now after the NC he hasn't mistakenly dialed my # once. He a phsyco a momma boy immature and very childish. I would make an about face like they do in the miliarty run as ran as i can and never look back........
Author zoya_j Posted December 19, 2004 Author Posted December 19, 2004 ok this is an update. i got tired of all the childish pranks and broke nc. ex starts calling on a daily basis again like nothing has changed between us. this continued until like a week ago when i just had enough of it and told him the friend thing between us is not going to work. i had alot of time to work out what it is i want and what i deserve. i'm looking for a relationship, where i'm there for someone and someone is there for me and i'm appreciated. i basically told him i'm not over him, and to be honest if we can't be together then i don't want anything between us. he was really shocked because he had assumed i was over him and seeing other people, i let him know that was not the case. since then i haven't heard anything from him and i've started to put him behind me (no false hopes or trying to figure out what's going on with him). i'm not a hard person to get along with, i think if i've done something wrong tell me about it. plus if i've wronged you in some way why try to go on like nothing happened? my friends say i'm too blunt with him but too bad i've just had enough of this crap and to be honest, all of this has lead me to be real turned off from him, it's just that my heart refuses to let go right now. the saying that you have to kiss a few frogs is so true.
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