TxGirl85 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I have been dating someone for a year and four months. Everything was perfect and when I say perfect I truly mean it I had my best friend, soulmate, and partner in crime. We decided to get an apartment together and it was amazing to come home to my partner. Our families got along our friends got along. We had minor disagreements but nothing that would ever have us not speaking or either one of us not going to bed with each other at the end of the night. W discussed marriage with both our families and my parents loved him so much that my dad who never speaks started calling him his son in law and even offered my great grandmothers diamond wedding ring that's been passed down to generations onto him to give me. We even discussed our children's names and started looking at homes so that way we could start getting things prepared to have a family. We planned a great trip to go see his family in California the first week of August and ill admit I was nervous but excited to see the family again but nervous because it was our first couples trip. That morning we woke up kissed and he said have a great day don't stress it's a short week by the time you get home we will be packing to leave!! Fast forward 7.5 hours later I come home and he is home with dinner cooked and he says we need to talk. My hearts starts racing he said we have two different personalities and we need to break up, that as of recently stopped being his best friend and that when he comes back from California I need to have my things packed and moved out. I am still in our apartment and it kills me to see that he is talking to other girls and completely ignores me. He will make small talk and its like we are best friends all over to then have him make his bed on the couch. I ache for the warmth of his kiss the touch of his skin the strength of his hug. Everything runs through my head of maybe playing wife scared him? Maybe commitment scared him? Maybe I wore too much makeup? Maybe I wasn't religious enough? Maybe I loved him too hard? I have talked to our pastor I have talked to his family and friends and they are all saddened as they thought we were perfect together and confided I was the longest relationship he has ever been in, in his adult life. I have noticed at pattern talking to his family is that he runs away from those that cares the most and values his friends more than family. Am I wrong to want this to work? What can I do to repair what I want most in life? He is still my best friend my soulmate and I miss him every second of the day just like I did before he left me.
saltyfishhead666 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 You clearly state your relationship was pretty perfect so what is there to repair exactly? It sounds like a combination of GIGS and sheer cold feet. Things are getting serious so he ends it and runs off to chat up other women? If he thinks you are worth that little that he can run from you and can come back at any time then why would you want him? We know you love him, but love is a two way thing. If he doesn't love you there is not much you can do about it. I'm sorry honey
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