FebruaryAmor Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 (edited) Short version: bf and I went on two separate vacas.i was on vaca with family he was with friends. I wanted to break up amically before trip. He begged for me to give him one more chance. 1 month later. I find out bf cheated on me while he was on vaca and is engaged to the girl hes only known for less than a month and was talking to me as if we were still together. Sending me I love yous etc. Why wud he beg for me to stay with him..then cheat on me... THEN try to break up with me. Why not already end things like I wanted to before? I wouldve wished him well if things ended before all of this craziness happened Long more detailed version: Ive been in a rough toxic relationship .. or what I thought was off and on for a year. My ex bf a month ago pleaded and begged for me to stay with him. I was trying to break up and at least keep whats left of our "friendship". Ive known him since we were in middle school. The love was gone for both of us but we kept latching on to eachother. We both went on vaca end of july throughout august. He was with friends I was with family. Before the trip we got in a big argumemt..I was pretty much acting like a bitch to him because I was unhappy. A week later he contacts me via skype and says I miss you babe my trip was fun hows urs goinf etc. We communicating like everything is good. 2 days ago...I see him for the first time since hes been back. I go over his place and everything is cool. Before I went over there we were on the phone for 3 hours and skype. He is kissing on me and all that. He goes down on me its good . Then he starts looking for a condom. Its dark so I cant see whats going on. 4 mins within the sex I ask did u just pull the condom out your suitcase?! Why is there a condom in your suitcase? Did you have sex with someone else??! He says yes but I used a condom. My mouth dropped. I couldnt believe he wud actually do something like that when hes the one who was begging for me to stay with him. He said he didnt know how to tell me he didnt wanna hurt me telling me on the phone so he waited until we saw eachother almost a month later. I come to find out (I dont have fb) that he has been sending emails to this girl he just met from his vacation and when I asked him if he has been seeing my emails he lied amd said no when in reality he was just ignoring them. He continued to treat me like his gf he was having this whole relationship on the side. Hes engaged to this girl hes only known for less than a month it says it on his fb. He is telling me he didnt know how to tell me and that he cares about me. My question is why didnt he just end things with me when I wanted to? Why would you say u wanna be with me.. cheat.. propose to someone.. and a month later.. HE tries to dump me??! That hurts me is that I put 100% trust in him hes the one who helped me learn to love again and told me not all men r the same. Then he ends up doing the very thing he always said he wud never ever do. Edited September 2, 2013 by FebruaryAmor
darkmoon Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 a booty call, he is telling you no exclusivity with the fiancée thing, he prolly lies to her as well, right, here are two women that we know of, more will come light because he a smoothie, a smooth talker with his "not all the same" (((hugs))) 1
Author FebruaryAmor Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 a booty call, he is telling you no exclusivity, the fiancée thing, he prolly lies to her as well, right, here are two women that we know of, more will come light because he a smoothie, a smooth talker with his "not all the same" (((hugs))) Thats what I feel like it was. He use to talk so much trash about one of my friends bfs that cheated on her once. It was just last week he said "I cant stand "Bob" he played with your friend etc" and this whole time hes been doing the same thing. and he is making it seem like IM the one who is at fault. How can someone be so evil like this????
darkmoon Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Thats what I feel like it was. He use to talk so much trash about one of my friends bfs that cheated on her once. It was just last week he said "I cant stand "Bob" he played with your friend etc" and this whole time hes been doing the same thing. and he is making it seem like IM the one who is at fault. How can someone be so evil like this???? I think he lives life too fast, not evil against you, just fast, butterfly, he's with you, then her, too fast to figure out much, he flaps around instead I hope you move on, life has more to offer than love gone bad, go to the library, see what's on, go clubbing...
stillafool Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Why didn't he offer to break off the engagement if he is still in love with you? The fact that he didn't admit to acting impulsively and break it off with her is very telling. I think he still wants to have sex with you but is planning on marrying her.
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