Gillian36 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Caught my boyfriend cheating a few days ago. He was very very drunk at the time. Still deciding whether or not we have a future any more. My question is if we do stay together, would it be possible for me ever to trust him again?
Pearlbay Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Caught my boyfriend cheating a few days ago. He was very very drunk at the time. Still deciding whether or not we have a future any more. My question is if we do stay together, would it be possible for me ever to trust him again? There's always a possibility you may trust him again but are you sure that he is a trustworthy person to begin with?
Author Gillian36 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 I never ever doubted him, thought what we had was something very special. I am so depressed. And he if at all possible seems even more depressed.
Pearlbay Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I never ever doubted him, thought what we had was something very special. I am so depressed. And he if at all possible seems even more depressed. Being drunk is not an excuse to cheat. If you can't trust him no more it might be a better idea to end the relationship. Because apparently for him 'special' can be washed away by consuming a certain amount of liqour. I can tell you there's no fun in being worried he might 'get drunk again' and cheat once more. 2
shymsalabim Posted September 6, 2013 Posted September 6, 2013 Has there been anything leading up to it to make you think this isn't just a one time mistake? Personally, I couldn't do it because it would destroy the trust I have in the other person, but if you feel like he is remorseful and deserves a second chance, then that's your call to make.
remorse Posted September 8, 2013 Posted September 8, 2013 Hey Gillian36, I was recently the other girl. I drunkenly hooked up with, and nearly slept with a friends boyfriend. We both were shocked and disgusted with what happend. But the thing is, is that I know that he still loves her- that it was no more than a drunken mistake. He has always been loyal and is so disgusted in himself, drunk or otherwise, it would never happen again. I think he would be worth the second chance. And if your boyfriend is truly remorseful I think he would be too. In saying that, the trust has to be rebuilt again and slowly, and if that means he doesn't go to social gatherings without you and drink, well so be it. Although he may be apologetic, he still needs to make it up to you. Also- off topic, but slightly related to my problem, if the other girl was a friend of yours- how would you suggest she goes about making it up to you? [Honestly, I think being 'drunk' is not an excuse, but I think that sometimes second chances are worth it]
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