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This has been bothering me for a while now but how important are looks to a female? I see and hear mixed results. The reason I am asking is because right now I am fat and I really like this girl that's very pretty. It's safe to say I'm out of her league. However, we get along pretty well. We have only known each other for a week but she made an impact on me and I am going to ask her out very soon. Hopefully it is not too late as we have not seen each other for nearly 3 weeks but I know where to find her and will stop by for a quick chat.

 

With my previous history of getting rejected by girls, I do not believe I will have a chance with a girl that's very pretty. The past girls were average to say the least. To me they looked fine but I know other people thought they were on the plain side. But that's okay because that was only part of why I liked the girls I asked out; the other part was their personality. But the girl I currently like is very pretty but she has a very cool personality as well.

 

I feel like the odds are stacked against me but I will still try. It's better to try than not do anything at all. As you already know my appearance is the biggest thing that's bothering me. I don't feel attractive. I just find it very difficult a girl as attractive as her would be with a guy like me. Other than my looks I don't know what else I could offer her. I do have a nice personality and make her laugh but I don't have much of a social life because I'm not into going to bars or the clubbing scene. I would however go out more if I had a gf.

 

So how important are looks to a girl? Can they over look some aspects? I am working on losing weight and I can start looking nice in about 2 months if I'm dedicated. I can also dress nicely and that's what I plan to do if I get a date.

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Tucker is correct...

 

Look, you're a big boy, and I have no doubt that you have a great personality...

 

Lose the pounds... Or at least mask them as well as you could. Buy some new threads, etc...

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You know whom I admire more than the pretty, fit blond woman jogging down the street?

 

It's the odd fat ***** jogging his ass off, in a slow jog, drenched in sweat.

 

No, I am not gay.

 

It is a sign of desire, of wanting change, and committing to do so. For the better good.

 

I admire those individuals, because they probably have more drive and desire to succeed than I do...

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Being that I'm good-looking, I can attest to the fact that looks are important. I've been "chosen" over enough guys because of my looks to know this.

 

With that said, however, I think that personality and confidence definitely matter more overall and can absolutely accentuate your looks.

 

I agree. I have been told enough times that I am a good looking attractive man. Tall, handsome, fit, etc. And I know that "helps" me.

 

I do not rely on it though. I am told equally as much how funny I am, how witty I am, how deep I am, that I am an old soul, I am confident, intelligent, I have good character, values and morals, etc.

 

So, yeah, looks matter, but I always go back to my "total" package comment. I dated a playboy model looking type woman for 12 months, I broke up with her 5+ months ago, have spent the past 3 months foolishly seeing her occasionally. The more I am learning about her character though, the uglier she becomes to me.

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"I feel like the odds are stacked against me but I will still try. It's better to try than not do anything at all."

 

 

 

And there you have it, all you can do is try, she may be very very impressed. And be confident not all whoa is me. Women love a confident man. She probably sees a bunch of fit men all the time who would never have the guts to take her out, you just never know until you try! Yesterday I saw a guy he had to be at least 450lbs and his girl was pretty & thin maybe 125lbs. They were walking and holding hands....I was jealous, lol.

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Looks matter a lot because you need mutual sexual attraction in order for two people to fall in love. That's why good-looking people fall in love more often and live happier lives as a result. If you're not physically attractive and you're trying to find love, then your pursuit will be riddled with disappointment because the women you're sexually attracted to will not be sexually attracted to you. You will develop crushes on many women, but they will not like you back.

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