NoFuxGiven Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 (edited) He still hasnt even bothered to contact me and explain his side of the story. A part of me really doesnt want to even hear it. I think ive been in complete denial anyways. Ive been defending our relationship when it was never really unicorns and rainbows in the first place. I admit i do struggle with jealousy and insecurity issues but his actions provoked those emotions the majority of the time. He was quite selfish also. Its funny how we can point out our exes flaws once they've wronged us and caused us to hurt. Anyways I really want to keep up NC. In the past I've never been able to. I can ignore his texts and calls but as soon as he shows up to my house, I end up letting him back in and he says all of the "right" things and the REAL problem never even gets resolved, just swept under the rug. I remember seeing an article someone (I think it was Katzee or Cavalier) posted on someone elses thread about THE RULE OF NO CONTACT or something along those lines and I was wondering if someone could send that my way. I know the BASIC rule of NC but I have questions and I really dont have anyone I feel comfortable talking to about my relationship problems. Today is only the second full day of NC and I dont know what I'm feeling. One minute I'm angry and the next minute I'm crying my eyes out. I also find myself trying to justify his shady behavior so I won't have to deal with all of this pain. I'm so afraid of being alone especially while I'm pregnant. I need some advice....a little inspiration and a pep talk would be nice too. Edited September 2, 2013 by NoFuxGiven
Dreamer100 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 (edited) This is a really good website that explains alot in detail. Have a rummage.. How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back- The Complete Guide Oh and I'm really sorry that your hurting. The longer you do no contact, the better and more in control you feel, I promise. Edited September 2, 2013 by Dreamer100
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 NC is a very straight forward and flawless cause and effect concept. If you discontinue an activity or seeing someone the intense feelings and desires will subside and eventually desipate. Be strong and know that you have a little one on the way who you need to be extra strong for. We often endure moments of distress and feel as if the world is against us but know that it's only temporary and you will come out of this a new and improved you. Once again, be strong we are all here for you.
Author NoFuxGiven Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 This is so hard!! And it's only day 3. My mind is consumed with thoughts of him. What is he doing? Who is he with? Why hasn't he even reached out? I know he is the one that ****ed me over but I'm starting to feel like maybe it was my fault. Maybe I wasn't there when he needed me. IDK. I just want this horrible pain to stop. Everything reminds me of him and it's driving me crazy. I hate him for deceiving me. I hate him, I hate him, I HATE HIM!!!
GTNBTTR Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Everytime these kind of feelings come up remember everything he did wrong while you two were together. Do not justify his actions and blame yourself but rather make himself be the cause of your agony. Think well into your future and know that you do not want to be in the same place that you are now. If he has done this to you now chances are he will not be prince charming later. I highly doubt he is out having the time of his life and you deserve much better than the way he treats you anyway. Remember the longer you stay hung up on him the more you risk missing out on a good thing. That could involve you becoming a stronger woman, finding someone new, or who knows maybe he will come to his senses.
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