domple Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Hey Guys its been a while. I met a girl on eHarmony a few weeks ago and we hit it off. We had fun I liker her and the values she sad (religious, family and all in-between are the same). Her heads switched on and is really down to earth, she also has this little cheeky side which I just love. Now you are probably thinking... yeah sounds awesome... we it is but for some reason I just can get over her looks. I just met her and thought she had a cute face and she dressed really well but I just cant get past the fact shes fat and plain (not ugly shes ok in the looks i believe). I will be honest I am trying to meet someone based on personality as I believe its more important. Odd this is I really like this girl, I have almost caught myself saying I love her (but didn't say it as its too early for that). I don't know what to say but for some reason her looks bug me but dont. She is currently in the process of loosing weight (she was in a draining relationship and used to be really tiny but put it all on while with this guy), she even discussed liposuction with me. So its weird I find myself not wanting to be near her but as I type this all I was to do is invite her over to hang out and just be with her. Also yes we have had sex and she is actually pretty awesome in that department, so how can I really like someone, have lots of sex with them and not find them attractive and almost breaking it off because its like my minds in 2 places at once. I do know that if I broke it off with her I would hate it and regret it, I know I sound crazy and a therapist did tell me that looks fade but I dont know how my mind can be at 2 places at once.
todreaminblue Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Hey Guys its been a while. Odd this is I really like this girl, I have almost caught myself saying I love her (but didn't say it as its too early for that). I don't know what to say but for some reason her looks bug me but dont. She is currently in the process of loosing weight (she was in a draining relationship and used to be really tiny but put it all on while with this guy), she even discussed liposuction with me. So its weird I find myself not wanting to be near her but as I type this all I was to do is invite her over to hang out and just be with her. Also yes we have had sex and she is actually pretty awesome in that department, so how can I really like someone, have lots of sex with them and not find them attractive and almost breaking it off because its like my minds in 2 places at once. therapy needed....plus a good one..better than the one you have ...deb
Kizza Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Weight can be lost and looks improved with time whereas a shallow and ****ty personality can not be. If she is amazing and cares about her looks then be patient and work with her toward her goals. That is what a good partnership is all about. If you don't have the patience for that then she is better off without you.
crederer Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Yah I gotta agree with deb, sounds like you have some issues.
Author domple Posted September 3, 2013 Author Posted September 3, 2013 Hey crederer & todreaminblue, I agree with both of you I do have some issues which is what I am trying to work through also Kizza I stayed at her place last night and I do agree with you, in fact lat night the looks didnt bother me. I just simply accepted her for who she is but I didn't care to be with her last night. I know I sound like all sorts of crazy. Again you are all like well if you don't like her looks then how can you sleep with her, invite her to your parents and not like her and like her and not want to be with her
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