nikkimikkime Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Blahhhhhh. 3 day weekend, sitting at home the whole time doing work alone, while boyfriend having fun and relaxing, and jealous by looking at photos of people having fun. Feeling really down, unmotivated, and emotional. Too much to do, too little time, sitting here and nothing gets done. Spend a lot of time with boyfriend, but doesn't feel satisfying, because I want to be out doing new things and exploring with him. Haven't done that in a while, but can't do it now or soon because too many things going on Miss going on dates and getting treated. I'm not sure what this tread is going to lead or turn into. Sorry if it's pointless. I need to see a therapist so hopefully this thread will help me find out what issues I'm having with life and boyfriend, if there's any. 1
kazuma Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 First and foremost you need to live and love your own life if you're going to be in a relationship, lest one side will be too clingy and dependant, which will cause issues. Take the time away to find your passions in life, improve your life and most of all live your life to the fullest, whether that involves your bf or not (ideally you want that without being dependant on someone else first)
KatZee Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I think you need to elaborate more on what all this "time consuming stuff" is. Too much to do? What is going on? School work? Job? If you have other obligations that have more of a priority over a relationship than obviously you're going to be bummed that you can't always be out partying with everyone else, but sh*t needs to get done. So buckle down, do your work, get this stuff done and out of the way, and have fun later on.
Author nikkimikkime Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 I think you need to elaborate more on what all this "time consuming stuff" is. Too much to do? What is going on? School work? Job? If you have other obligations that have more of a priority over a relationship than obviously you're going to be bummed that you can't always be out partying with everyone else, but sh*t needs to get done. So buckle down, do your work, get this stuff done and out of the way, and have fun later on. I'm in grad school, so there's a lot of assignments and portfolios that need to be completed. Sometimes I feel like I can't keep up. Doesn't help that I procrastinate, so things get really overwhelming towards the end. Grad school is absolutely a priority over this relationship, but I do love him a lot. I'm not a jealous person, but lately I find myself get jealous over little things. He is a flirt, and so am I, but nothing harmful, it's just friendly flirting which I am completely ok with. But he's a leo, so he gets overprotective and jealous, which in turn kinda makes me feel the need to be jealous too. This is not ok, I do not want to be jealous. Now I would get jealous when he looks or hangs out with girls. This is dumb, I should not be jealous of this, and I normally wouldn't be. He's recently taken time off work, it's been two months, but he has investment income. Playing in the stock market is obviously very volatile, so he has gotten a little stingy on spending money, even on himself. It's not that he doesn't have money, he just wants to keep it all in the stock market, but no other income is coming in. I'm not going to tell him what to do with his money. In this previous relationships, he's been the one paying for everything, every single time. I guess he kinda felt used so he promised himself not to let it happen in his next relationship. I am completely okay with this, but I can't help but feel a little under appreciated, or not as valued as his past girlfriends, and sometimes I don't feel like I'm worth spending money on. Although this is probably not the case, I can't help feeling that way, because at the back of my mind it'll always be "Oh, he paid for her, why isn't he paying for me?". I'm used to paying things for myself, but he's set this perception with himself, and it doesn't help that he's being stingy with money right now. I also forgot to mention that he is 35 and I am 22, but feel no age difference, although it did scare me in the beginning of the relationship.
Author nikkimikkime Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Right now he's having fun with a bunch of girls and it's driving me insaneeeeee! He hasn't replied to my text in 5 hours. No big deal, but I'm just jealous for no reason and I know this is an issue I have to fix. Trust is there 100%, but jealousy! I don't like this.
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