3 days NC - will she reach out ?

[Majj1]

Long story short, we broke up beginning of jan 13 , she dumped me and ended it saying we were arguing too much and i wasn't there for her while she was at uni, yet i would drive every weekend 2 hours to go stay with her...

 

We still spoke regularly and hooked up til around feb march, she went back to uni etc and a new group of friends and began slowly cutting me out. I did my best the whole needy shabang i went to see her, i booked a trip to Paris for us and asked her to go with me she said she couldn't some bs reason yet i find out she has been seeing a guy at uni allegedly don't know how serious.

 

She is now home and we saw each other and i tried again to get her back and she treated me like. Bitch. I did everything for her for 2 years i paid for everything, i was caring and helped her through uni and paid for holidays expensive gifts etc .

 

Now since shes home she has gone off the rails drinking heavy and apparently getting albeit a bit. I still love her yet i know after 8 months i shouldn't. We've been in NC only 3 days as i have ran out of options. I don't expect her to contact me as she is stubborn , do you think she will feed me breadcrumbs or wut ? Ideally a girls perspective . In a way i would like her to message me purely to ignore her like she has to me for weeks . I really don't understand how people can jut suddenly change and be so ungrateful

[hellischrome]

What should she do? Be grateful and be with you 'cause you bought her expensive gifts? I don't think anyone would want that.

 

She will probably give you crumbs, and that's what it's going to be if she does: just crumbs. You just have to accept it and let it go.

[lakerman34]

I lot of this sounds similar to what I went through with my ex. I treated her like a goddess, we broke up b/c she, basically, wanted to live life w/o commitments, and after we broke up, her friends were all telling me how she was still in love w/ me. 2 weeks later, she was banging a friend of mine.

 

My friend, she is banging another guy. She may like him. You've done NC for 3 days. The first month of NC is the toughest. Stay strong. I can proudly say I never spoke to my ex after breakup day, and, just the other day, she came up in conversation and I couldn't remember her last name!

 

Stay NC. Find a hobby and invest A LOT of time in that hobby. Get lost in it. Have your friends take you to the bar. Hang out w/ your closest female friends. Enjoy single life, and surround yourself with women.

 

Delete her COMPLETELY from social networking sites. What I did was delete my social networking sites, then blacklisted them so the temptation of even looking her up through Google wasn't there.

 

You're lucky that you don't have to see her everyday. That would be very complicated to deal with (main reason why companies don't want their employees to date each other).

 

Just let her go. Another one is around the corner. About a month after I got completely over my ex, another girl showed up -- WAY more compatible. I mean, unfortunately, that didn't work out either, but still. Keep with NC and your ex will just be a funny story in no time at all.