Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I had a family party yesterday which my bf was supposed to attend after he got out of work at 6. He said he was too tired. I was pretty mad cuz that was supposed to be his first time meeting my family but I kind of kept my cool. My fam left early, so me and my best guy friend (whose his BFF and the one who introduced us) decided to go out for drinks. My bf dumped me for that! Is that my bad or his bad??? He said "I'm jealous of u guys always hanging out and I don't deserve that" wtf?!?? He kind of mentioned it to me before nd I def haven't hung out w him as much since, but I'm not gonna stay home bord cuz my bf ditched me. I kinda feel in love w this guy this summer but he hasn't answered any of my txts today. Wat do I do? did I really do that wrong? Are we really doomed?
melell Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 I have a hunch he is just having a sulk. If you ignore him right now, chances are he will want to talk to you. I feel as though he may be ignoring you to punish you. Could be wrong. Lets see what other posters think
Author Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 If this was fb and I could "like" that comment I would. Thank u and I totally hope you're right 1
Author Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Pleaseee halpp I need advice
Author Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Ah come on guys, not a legit enough story for advice?
Kizza Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Sounds like a great guy. Ditched a commitment to you because of the age old excuse "too tired" then gets upset with who you hang with (does he not trust you?) dumps you for it and then proceeds to ignore you. There are red flags here. Just don't say anything to him and see what happens. He might just be sulking or punishing you, either way these are ****ty personality traits. How long have you been dating? 1
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Sounds like he likes to make premature decisions. Albeit if I put myself in his shoes I wouldn't be so crazy about your friend either, but that's just me. I can only suggest to move along he doesn't sound too stable.
Author Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Thanks for the answer! That's exactly what I said to him.. Their is no reason not to trust me, I was hanging out with that kid long before I met him! He hooked us up! We've only been dating for almost 2 months, not long at all. I'm just very confused and super mad that he can't even talk to me. He's also super mad at our friend. I find the whole thing quite ridiculous I'm just posting on here to see if I did wrong or he did. Thanks again!
Author Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Yea I've def heard different feelings about me continuing to hang out with our BFF and I could see how someone would be upset with the fact that it's a dude but at the same time he has nothing to worry about. Plus, he's the one who ditched me. Thanks for the reply
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 He is extremely jealous and this is is way of showing. I'm very conservative and always dated conservative girls its no an insecurity thing, I just like to know that my partner and I are on the same page when it comes to situations such as yours. Don't focus so much on what you did wrong, it's who you are and he should accept you for the type of girl you are and how he met you. In the meantime remain NC and I would suggest to start moving forward with your life.
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 And yes it was terrible of him to ditch you stating he was "tired", specially when he was supposed to meet your family for the first time. I would be extremely embarrassed.
Author Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Thanks again! I guess I should have taken his feelings more into consideration. At least I know now for next time and yes I will most def be in NC it won't take me long to move on, I just hope his friendship with the other guy isn't ruined. My guy friend is very mad at him too
Author Silly Girl924 Posted September 2, 2013 Author Posted September 2, 2013 Yea before everyone left they were like "I guess your new bf hates us and doesn't want to meet us" and my thoughts were "yea I think he hates me too" 1
JDPT Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 What a terrible way to start. But I think you have a fundamental concept as to what it is you need to do with this situation. Save yourself future grief and move forward. You are heading the right direction. 1
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