xxoo Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Time to dig deep. Why are you threatened by your 16 year old niece? Why aren't you confident that your bf will handle this with maturity on his own? 3
Simon Phoenix Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Freak out? Are you kidding or what? I saw that movie and the girl playing that teen girl actually laid down for the Lester character and was ready to lose her virginity to him. She wanted it, period! But that's irrelevant. I think Febreze will be fine as far as the niece chasing the boyfriend goes, simply because the niece will probably find another older man to flirt with and they're plenty of them out there. Febreze needs to worry about doing right by her man and not messing up to the point where he'll leave or cheat on her. It's just so easy to do. You didn't watch the movie. She got all nervous and uncomfortable and was only going to go through with it because she thought that's what he wanted. She was relieved when he pulled back.
Ninjainpajamas Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 What the hell? Why is everyone jumping on the guy. As far as the info goes, he didn't do anything wrong. I can't believe there is actually man blame floating around this thread. What are you basing this on? He doesn't sound like a class act? He didn't do anything. I'm not jumping on the guy more than speaking in regards to the circumstances of trust in this relationship and the way in which the relationship was held together (by her threatening to leave) that's just a huge red flag right there to even have gotten to that point so there's likely more of a back story to that...with a high dose of her own insecurity to be threatened by a 16 year old niece. What I'm speaking of is, if there is a reason for her not to trust him around a 16 year old niece (that wasn't mentioned) then she would have bigger problems...concerning the man she is in a relationship with. This woman has obviously got some major issues to to even feel and materialize this whole circumstance as a huge threat/problem in itself, as far as his actions with the 16 year old (I don't recall and I'm not going to reread the thread) he didn't do anything necessarily wrong (I don't recall him flirting back). If she's insecure and by the moderate chance he is really untrustworthy (you have to realize people typically choose people who exacerbate their issues) then the "relationship" is going to go down in flames anyway, no matter what is said and done in-between to "save it"...people go up and down on that rollercoaster person after person without ever looking in the mirror, or too afraid to and just jump on somebody else before it can really sink in.
FitChick Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 since she's out in another part of Long Island and I wont see her until the next get together all is well right If she will be at the next get together, plan something with him somewhere else so you have a good excuse. Otherwise, don't tell him and go alone. Problem solved. Feel free to make her one of your bridesmaids if you marry this guy.
vla1120 Posted September 2, 2013 Posted September 2, 2013 Actually in most states/countries, it's perfectly legal for them to hook up. But it is severely frowned upon for obivous reasons. Funny thing. Where I live, it's a FELONY!!
Shaun-Dro Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 (edited) You didn't watch the movie. She got all nervous and uncomfortable and was only going to go through with it because she thought that's what he wanted. She was relieved when he pulled back. Of course she was nervous! If it were your first time you'd be pretty damn nervous too. But I took that she was flattered by his attention and wanted it anyway. The movie can be looked at from various angles. It's open like that. If you want a movie where the girl really didn't want to do it with an older guy was in a film called Trust, came out 2010. Check it out. That was more obvious. Edited September 3, 2013 by Shaun-Dro missed a word
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