Our date was supposed to be yesterday but he didn't even bother to call to confirm!

[Luna33]

Hi, guys,

 

I'd really appreciate a male perspective on this: I met this guy a few weeks ago and, in the beginning, I noticed he was very interested (even mentioned that he wanted to have a relationship with me), and he asked me out. The day of our first date, he called to cancel (I said it was fine but felt kinda upset, maybe he got the vibes that I wasn't very interested) and never heard from him again until I recently contacted him. He was nice in our last talk, said that he would love to see me again just was very busy with college lately. So, we set up a day to meet (yesterday) but he didn't even bother to call or text to confirm that, though he said he had some stuff to do that day and would let me know if we could hang out. Honestly, this had never happened to me before, and found it really rude because he could at least said "Sorry, I can't see you that day. We'll meet later..." or anything else. Anyway, I made other plans and didn't wait for him to confirm. Thing is I want to let this guy know my dissaproval about his actions and then stop contact with him. Want to let him know I'm a confident girl who sticks up for herself and can't mess up with me that way, or it's better just say nothing and forget about him? Your opinions and advices are more than welcome! Thanks in advance.

[CarrieT]

Forgettaboutit.

 

You don't want to be the one having to chase someone. If he were interested enough, he would make the effort. He has not.

 

Time to move on.

[truth_seeker]

Thing is I want to let this guy know my dissaproval about his actions and then stop contact with him. Want to let him know I'm a confident girl who sticks up for herself and can't mess up with me that way

 

Okay, you need to put your ego in check. Why get involved in a game so you can get the upper hand? Are you that immature?

 

The guy was a dick to lead you on. Let him go. You're so much better off not knowing him at all.

[phineas]

It isn't a male or female thing.

It's a people suck thing.

 

I'd say about 75% of the women I've made dates with don't bother canceling.

I have to verify with them the day of & I assume it is cancelled when they don't even bother responding.

 

Nothing like wasting time texting & talking to someone only to have them ignore you the day of a date.

I just forget about them.

Not worth my time.

 

Funny thing is some of the turn up again weeks to months later trying to talk to me like they never blew me off.

I LOL!

[forgetmenot75]

He's not interested, he doesn't want to meet you. You've contacted him once, don't do it again. You've had enough clues he's not interested. Big turn off if you chase a man

[crederer]

Wait, guys are supposed to confirm dates? I usually set the date then show up, hasn't failed me yet.

[candie13]

girl, if you want to show him something, anything, that would mean you'd have to show him you care. Ignorance is the best choice here. Not snubbing him or acting upset. Not at all. Actually smiling and being all fabulous. His loss, not yours. Think, what if he pulled that trick two or three dates down the road aka the disappearing act?

 

don't bother. Even more, force yourself to not talk, think or do anything that includes that guy. Get busy organizing a bunch of other dates, happiness is the best revenge.

[forgetmenot75]

Wait, guys are supposed to confirm dates? I usually set the date then show up, hasn't failed me yet.

 

Oh yeah, they have to confirm.

This is funny, last guy I've been (he was NOT into me, but I loved him so much) set a date and never confirmed. I texted him one hour prior and he tried to cancel, because supposedly he was busy. I said to him, no way I'm picking you up anyway! So I went to his home. I was THAT crazy! We finally went dinner, but I don't recommend acting like this. It's a no no. If the guys not interested, why force situations? He'll break with us anyway at the end. Cruel truth

[forgetmenot75]

girl, if you want to show him something, anything, that would mean you'd have to show him you care. Ignorance is the best choice here. Not snubbing him or acting upset. Not at all. Actually smiling and being all fabulous. His loss, not yours. Think, what if he pulled that trick two or three dates down the road aka the disappearing act?

 

don't bother. Even more, force yourself to not talk, think or do anything that includes that guy. Get busy organizing a bunch of other dates, happiness is the best revenge.

 

Yay that's the attitude. Agree 100%

[KatZee]

It was kind of obvious he wasn't all that into it from the very beginning. He blew off the first date and you never heard from him again.

 

It was only after YOU initiated asking him that that he agreed, but again, blew you off.

 

I wouldn't contact this guy again. Busy with college is just an excuse.

[It's Just Me]

All I can say is, "NEXT!"

[Jbum5]

Busy with college?

 

More likely, the harlequin means busy with women in college.

 

Time to move on, lass.

[Luna33]

Thank you all! Your comments were really helpful, especially the one from Candie13, so I just moved on and deleted his number, don't want to waste my time with someone who's not genuinely interested. There are lots of good matches out there, I'll keep smiling and looking great... hopefully, I'll meet a better guy soon.