From "we will get back together" to "maybe after a while"to "never" in 3 weeks

[Farsight]

Hi Everyone,

 

I've been with my ex for 8 months but we lived togeter all day and didn't have full time jobs. I love this woman to death she is 21 I am 27.

Three weeks ago my ex GF calls me and says that she is very tired

and acts grumpy. She just went on a trip for a few days. I tried to act normal dispite that she is being not very nice.

We end the conversation.

Then she calls 2 hours later telling me she wants to end our relationship. This is not the first time she sad this and it was all in the heat of the moment of some argument. And always after awhile of talking her feelings go away.

Not this time and i start to panic. And I talk her into taking a break. Her argument is mainly that she is completely exhausted and that she has to choose for herself.

After she sends me texts that she misses me and that she is confused and broken up and unhappy.

I give her room thinking that is wat she needs so I don't initiate contact. I do reply though but not with crying or begging just neutral and that i miss her to. Few days later she comes at my house and I try to comfert her with hugging etc but she still doesn't know if we are back together.

Few days later she calls me telling me I am still her best friend. And I am just having a nice conversation for 30 minutes trying to play it cool.

After a week she says she wants to make the break up indefinately.

Few days later online she says after she if she is feeling better we maybe will get togehter(a month). And another week later she says on the email that its not going to happen. Now she didn't contact me all week and I called her yesterday and she was not very responsive.

 

 

She started at a new university this past week. So I guess she has a lot on her mind.

 

The problem also is that I have to return a lot of her stuff and she has a gift for me still for my birthday. She wants to get together for this exchange.

 

No I am thinking what should I do? In the past when she had doubts and I did someting romantic it was al better.

And shall I just leave her stuff at her door or should I try to do something with this get together. Like shwoing up being friendly and understanding etc.

I am thinking of getting her her favorite flowers and apolygizing or writing her a letter. I have the feeling that if I act soon I can still do something because its all still fresh. She hasn't seen me since are last gettogether.

I said on the email I needed space for awhile. She says thats ok.

 

I thought of going NC because everybody is telling me that. And then maybe after awhile try to get back together. Also because she suggested it losely. I know a lot of you will tell be go NC but what about a last romantic offense? Will it hurt my changes in the long run or won't it matter?

Edited September 1, 2013 by Farsight
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[lastking]

8 months in a relationship is not enough time to apply No Contact. I dont think she will miss you much if you apply NC unless you had a big connection. You are better off showing her some love ( flowers, card... ) to help change her mind.

[Farsight]

Well we had a big connection. She told me al her secrets.

She never had a relationship with anyone like me she said.

But with big hights also came big downers. The downers made her leave I guess. She couldn't take it anymore.

 

But thanks mayeb I will take up on that advice