Karachngsw Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 My ex and I were in a 7 month long relationship. I know it isn't a very long period of time, but what we had was amazing. I loved him so much and I still do. We have already broken up for about 2 months or so. The reason why he broke up with me was because he couldn't trust me anymore. I did not cheat on him at all. Not emotionally. Not physically. It all started when I drunk dialed a friend whom I used to like and he found out. He was mad (I know, that's my bad) but he forgave me. After awhile I threw away everything that the guy gave me before because I know it would make him feel better, but I kept one pair of pants because I thought it was really cute. He found out yet again and I lied to him that I missed clearing that out. I guess I panicked and was so afraid that he would get angry that's why I lied (my bad again). The thing is, I have long gotten over that guy and I have never had any hidden agendas. I know that he feels really insecure and I have tried to constantly reassure him that I no longer have feelings for that person. I'm sure that it's because of these small, stupid, selfish actions of mine that have led to this breakup and made him lose his trust in me. He thinks that I am never going to change for the better and that I never mean what I say. I know that it's my fault and I totally deserve it but I really need some help. What should I do to show him that I am a changed person and how do I gain his trust? I know that it's going to be tough, but I believe that it's going to be worth it. I have a always loved him and recently he told me that he still loves me. The only reason why he can't do this anymore is because of his trust issues. Please help! I have no idea what I should do.
candie13 Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 you cannot work on his trust issues, he must do that work by himself. of course, you could prepare a fantastic bs speach that would convince him to get back with you, but you need a looooot of patience with this guy. All my experiences with insecure guys were poor, especially those where I really liked the guy. the issue isn't "can I get him back". I think most women can get back the men they've recently dates. The real issue is: "do you want such a person back"? It's the same insecure him and you seem to be enjoying your own private garden. Honestly, it's your own bloody business what sweatpants you keep and which ones you throw away.
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