taylor_marston Posted September 1, 2013 Posted September 1, 2013 Hey Guys, Am new here and just want some advice on my situation here. We are both young (17) living in the UK, We were both in young love and kind of blinded ourselves with it. She broke up with over a stage of 3-4 months, Still having sexual intercourse, seeing each other in general. And then my mind broke, I recently had come out of a dire situation with my family and this girl is the reason I did what i done, I moved out and took initiative. But this is me blagging on. She broke up with me and before I was convinced she wanted what she had to say to me, holiday to africa in a few years, possible engagement and to create a life for us. Maybe i was abit foolish to believe what she said to me but she had a plan, it was her plan since she was young. I know the age we are and it is a character defining part of our lifes,but i still feel what she is doing now is killing me, she is not who i knew, she recently said she started falling for me again when i told her to stay away from me so i can heal, So why would she say that? and then instantly went no you've ruined it, I can't fall for you again. Did she say it just because I said we should stay out of contact due to this break-up affecting every part of my life and i thought it was right to do that? Or did she mean it? But i did blabber on, if anyone wants to comment on that upper bit, id be very grateful. The main part is that, I know money should never even come into a conflict between two people who love each other. but I was convinced about what she said about the future, and again i used my head and made a good bit of cash for her and me (mainly, africa and trips and foundations for a home all that stuff) and i made it,i done it and felt success. But now what is that money? days i just want to see it burnt. but still i just leave it their. The only reason that money is even there is because it was for her. I can't even look at it anymore, i want it gone but something in my head stops me and again, the only reason that money is their is for her, what now? i thought giving it to charity but what is something horrible happens and i need it? but i cant live anymore knowing its their? Any comments or just anything would be great, Thank you, Taylor
Philosoraptor Posted September 3, 2013 Posted September 3, 2013 "she recently said she started falling for me again when i told her to stay away from me so i can heal"..."and then instantly went no you've ruined it" She is (conciously or unconciously) trying to keep you on a string and take some power in this breakup. She broke up with you and you took your power back by working on yourself. She wanted you to hang on and feed her ego, by cutting contact you end that cycle. About the money. Either do something nice for yourself now, or put it into a savings bond so that it will be there once you've healed and you can enjoy it later without having to look at it. Don't waste it though, if you want rid of it that bad give to a noble cause so you can feel good that it went somewhere.
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