Read this if you are down in the dumps over a breakup...and let it inspire you.

[bamaguy20]

As many of you know, when my gf of 2 years broke up with me on VALENTINES day...i was a little more than upset..I felt like i wanted to die. Then to top it off she flirted with that druggie loser right in front of me, and was blatant about it. Okay, so a lot has happend since that day and right now as I write this. Ive spent countless hours getting sick thinking about what she was doing, crying, feeling pathetic. I have a lot of really good friends who helped me through this, guy and girl, and I'd say thats probably key. As it turns out, I find out a couple weeks ago, that she is in fact dating someone. Not the loser, but this older guy I've known for a while. I expected it to hit me as a total shock, but no, it didn't. It gave me that slight feeling I know we all get in our stomachs, but really, it wasnt what i expected. Since then, when I think about her, I dont want to cry, or call her or this or that. Just now actually for the first time, I thought to myself, mabye I should write her an email, but not to try to beg her to get back together, but to just say, Im glad shes doin fine, let her know im doin fine (im actually kinda dating a girl I used to know from high school right now), and tell her no matter what happened in the past, id like to be friends with her at some point, as i know shes expressed that to me before after the break up, but i simply couldnt be friends at that point, i still had hope for us getting back together like things used to be. Just know, that when you think to yourself, well "mine is different than most people, we had a special connection not many people have" understand almost EVERYONE that is broken up with by someone you really love feels that way. I used to repeat that so much on here, when people were telling me what i am saying right now. Truth is, life will go on and you will be back to the way you were. Its been 9 months, and to some that may seem like a lifetime, but really I am a very emotional person, and I really was in love with this girl, as I know she was me, but apparently we had grown apart, and everyone who reads this and knows what Im speaking about should know, that even though the pain seems so overwhellming, it will go away. No contact is the main thing. After 3 months of begging and being completly pathetic, we stopped talking about only spoke 3 times over the summer, all of which were civil. She tried to play games with me over the summer, telling me.."one day", "i still care about you", "i still wear your ring and think about you everyday".....that didnt help me out mentally with this...itd made things harder...dont let your ex do that to you. With all that said...I remember the first day i posted here because I felt I had nothing else at the time, someone more or less said this to me....Im so happy that I can FINALLY be in that position to tell someone else this. Just trust me, I promise you all, even though the days seem long and dark, there are better ones ahead, and I am pretty much there. My life is back to what it once was and I feel great about it. Im not completly 100% back to normal over here...but like i said...Im almost there, and ALL of you will be too one day. Keep the faith alive and you will come out alright....who would have thought I did, but I did, and you will too, just believe that. Allow all that to sink in, and believe it....There is a song by Billy joel called "an innocent man" which after listening to it dozens of times, made me feel better. Download it, look up the lyrics, whatever, just listen to it and know everyone goes through this at some point in life, and in the end you will still be there and you will be o.k.

[MissingHerBad]

So heres a question for you. I hope people arent getting tired of me on here. I am confused to hell but tired of feeling sad and I hope soon to be in your shoes. However my break up could have been prevented. Quite easily but it wasnt clear to me at the time. Now I have made huge improvements im my lifestyle and one of them being I have taken a leave of absence from DJing in the nightclubs. All through this and it has only been 2 months we have chatted back and forth sometimes for hours at a time. I have no idea if she is seeing another guy, she like attention so very well could be but my question is, "Should I let her know specifically what changes I have made in my life...how Ive changed or do you thin that it is to late...It has already been 2 months and she always tells me that she has killed the butterflies in her stomach...she doesnt really contact me and says she doesnt think about it much. However on the other hand last week she was talking about good times and how much it is begginning to hurt to think about it. This girl was however just crazy for me ... as far as I can tell up until the day we broke up (but obviously not or we wouldnt have)...Any suggestions on that...

[bamaguy20]

Id say it really depends on the situation....I made some changes in my life after the break up in hopes of winning her back, but she kept saying the same thing, not now, one day.....so who knows, mabye we will get back together if its meant to be....if you feel like this will better yoru chances, then go for it...but dont keep your hopes up if it doesnt..thats what i did i put too much coinfidence in me being able to win her back or persuade her orwhatever, as i often am pretty good at doing with people....didnt work out and i felt worse..if you feel this one last chance is worth it, do it...but if i were you go no contact...as soon as i did that my ex started sending me text messages, this and that.......it makes them think...thats what id tell you to do....dont talk to her tell her you can no longer be friends with her....and see if that makes her come back.

[MissingHerBad]

Hmmm, I kinda did tell her that I couldnt ber her friend because I was to emational but I left it a week and then I caved. Then she called me the next week (no reply) and she sent me a poem. Then I got crazy again and well...you know. I feel like she isnt making much attempt but last time I talked to her she said she felt the same way bout me not attemptimg contact.

[opaleye]

Thank you. I'm so happy for you that you are feeling this way! It's awesome. Best of luck for everything!